Jodi - posted on 01/10/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )
If you are the primary custody parent to your child, you not only do not "own" your child (that's right, your child is not a commodity), nor do you have 100% rights, but you also have an OBLIGATION to encourage a relationship with the non-custodial parent as much as possible. Even if you have no court orders (or outdated court order), you have a MORAL obligation TO YOUR CHILD.
Now, if your child has not yet seen the non-custodial parent for Christmas, and there are still gifts under the tree waiting for that said child, and there have been attempts at contact and no return calls, no effort, no encouragement or recognition that the non-custodial parent and child have a right to some contact over Christmas, then you are failing in your duty as a parent.
If you MOVE interstate, hours away from the non-custodial parent, you have an OBLIGATION to continue to encourage a relationship between parent and child, and in fact, an obligation to commit to a part of the travel that will involve.
That is all. Rant over. (And yes, that is happening to my husband right now, and I am upset for him and am feeling his hurt and anger. Unfortunately, because the said child is almost 15, it is almost redundant to go to court, and yet we still rely on his mother to do the right thing.....or not).