A Message to ALL Custodial Parents

Jodi - posted on 01/10/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )




If you are the primary custody parent to your child, you not only do not "own" your child (that's right, your child is not a commodity), nor do you have 100% rights, but you also have an OBLIGATION to encourage a relationship with the non-custodial parent as much as possible. Even if you have no court orders (or outdated court order), you have a MORAL obligation TO YOUR CHILD.

Now, if your child has not yet seen the non-custodial parent for Christmas, and there are still gifts under the tree waiting for that said child, and there have been attempts at contact and no return calls, no effort, no encouragement or recognition that the non-custodial parent and child have a right to some contact over Christmas, then you are failing in your duty as a parent.

If you MOVE interstate, hours away from the non-custodial parent, you have an OBLIGATION to continue to encourage a relationship between parent and child, and in fact, an obligation to commit to a part of the travel that will involve.

That is all. Rant over. (And yes, that is happening to my husband right now, and I am upset for him and am feeling his hurt and anger. Unfortunately, because the said child is almost 15, it is almost redundant to go to court, and yet we still rely on his mother to do the right thing.....or not).


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/10/2014




I think we need to make this a sticky, not just a post.

Jodi, thoughts & prayers headed to ya, girl!

Jodi - posted on 01/10/2014




That is one of the reasons I posted it, because there is another side to those stories, and those who keep their child from the non-custodial parent because it is inconvenient, too much work, and so on, are selfishly depriving their child and also hurting others.

The second reason I posted is because I needed to get it off my chest, and the rant felt good :P

For those mothers who are reading, I am on BOTH sides of this argument.....and my 16 year old son spent an entire 10 days, including both Christmas AND New Year with his father, with absolutely no argument from me. Flexibility is in the best interests of your children, not possession, ownership and selfish ignorance. One day, your children will thank you for it.

Ev - posted on 01/10/2014





I will keep you guys in thoughts and prays as I am as you know on the other end of having secondary or non-custodial part of the custody. I think your rant should also be a statement to those mothers here that want to deny or keep dad from seeing his kiddos no matter the reasons behind it.


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