Lisa - posted on 11/16/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )
I have 2 daughters, 14 and 12. My oldest is very well behaved, mellow, and shy. My youngest.....oh my youngest....she is just at the title says most of the time.The tiniest thing sets her off, she threatens to run away, she says we treat her like crap. but all we do is love her, I raise her with my mom, and when she gets disagreeable we don't raise our voices to scream level. we ignore her and wait until she's done throwing her 2 year old tantrum. We've taken away her ipod, computer privelages, television, play dates, NOTHING works! She claims that we favor her sister too much, but in reality, we might even spoil herself more than her older sister. She has tantrums frequently, like 4 times a week. It includes screaming, crying, throwing things, and the usual round of "I hate you" and "you always do such and such to me". What I xan't understand is that she's an angel at school, straight A's, and all of her friend's parents says she's a dream daughter at theirr house. I don't know what I did to raise a child like this, when I've done nothing but try to be there for her. My mom is 74 years old, and doesn't need torun her already high bloodpreassure up worrying about my daughter. She had a fit so violent tonight, that she threw her sisters phone across the room and kicked her knee cap so hard she has a nice gash in her knee. I wanted my girls to be best friends, I feel sorry that I put my oldest through this, having a sister like this. My oldest has tried to be friends with her, and be nice to her, but she justthrows a fit. She believes that
I have no control over her, and I do have a little control over her, just not as much as I'd like. It's been going on since she was 2. we've tried the nice, calm, talking open approach, and the strict, harsh, serious approach and none worked
Please help, I'm soooo desperate and embarassed to see that the teachers at school can control my daighter but somehow I can't. Could she have ADD? i'm going to talk to my doctor about her, and hopefully he'll take this seriously. We need counseling, meds, anything. Some advice or hopeful words would be much appreciated!