A NEW BABY

Jennifer - posted on 09/10/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My new husband and I have 3 teen girls between us 14,15, and 16. We go through phases where we think about adopting a girl around 1 to 3 years old. Our worry is that we are so close to our children being grown and having time to ourselves that we would not be the best parents to a small child. Then we think how much the both of us love being parents. We keep our nieces and nephews all the time because we miss the small children from our lives. My niece is 4 yrs old and my nephew is a 5 yr old boy. His nephew is a 2yr old boy and his nieces are 5 and 4 yrs. We also think about grandchildren and how old the child would be at the time the grandchildren start coming. We cannot have one on our own. He is 40 and I am not that far behind him. I am sure that some of you have started over this way. What are your suggestions and advice?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/26/2015

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I'm with Jodi here. This is a very personal decision. With both of my boys grown (youngest just turned 18), and only my youngest at home until he finishes HS, we are ready to be at the 'give back' stage LOL. Now, if circumstances were to happen that we end up adopting a child, that will be what we do, but it would have to be a situation where we were the ONLY option for the child, and it would have to be with a lot of soul searching.
I love my younger nieces and cousins, so they're what helps me with the 'baby fix'. I also have several past students and aides that are now married with babies, so I get to play adopted grandma, which is fun too.
Good luck with whatever you decide!

Jodi - posted on 09/11/2015

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Ah, ok. Well, I guess it is up to you whether you want to start over. We have an oldest who is 23 and our youngest is 10 (with 2 other in between), and I don't think I could ever start over again. Part of that may be my age, but a big part of it is I am totally done with babies. I have made the decision I am quite happy to wait for the give-back grandbabies, LOL. But that's our personal choice. I also want to have some years to myself while I am still relatively young. Okay, so I will be in my early fifties before my youngest is an adult, but hubby and I will be still young enough to travel and do some things for us before we have to consider failing health and all that comes with old age. We will also be in a position to be just grandparents and enjoy what will come with that.

Jennifer - posted on 09/11/2015

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Its not the age my husband is diabetic and that has caused issues with his having children and I had a tubal after my last child I had side effects from birth control and after having 2 children by the time I was 21 seemed like my only option I was simply trying to keep the post from getting to long

Jodi - posted on 09/10/2015

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When has being nearly 40 ever stopped anyone having children of their own?

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