So - posted on 04/26/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )
I am a Mom with a daughter from a previous relationship and a significant other whom I have another daughter with. I met this man when my oldest daughter was 6 months old while attending college. Always told him that my daughter and I were a package deal. We dated and moved in together when my daughter was 3 years old. I got pregnant with my second daughter and things were fine. I have always notice a slight difference in the way he treats my daughter and our daughter together but it was much of a difference to make a big deal. However, in the back of my mind I have always wondered how it really felt about my child. Don't get me wrong he has provided excellently but the love was always a question for me.
My daughter is now 14 years old. the teenage years are a bit challenging. SHe is a straight a student but experiencing peer pressure to talk to boys. Lately, this is becoming a problem with me and him. He became angry a few days ago and took our daughter together phone while we were going to the store. He said he doesn't trust my oldest daughter and she is sneaky. We had a big argument because I believe his comments were rude and did not come from a place of love and compassion.
Although he has asked in the past, I have not married this man because a little voice keeps telling me NO. It is not just the issues with my daughter but other issues too like alcoholism. We recently relocated to another city. we both signed the lease. I have about 3 months left of the lease. Because I feel that he is a grown man and my daughter is in need of me more, I feel I should leave after the lease is up. He is not a good communicator. I feel that this will be an ongoing issue and if there's a time that my child needs me the most it is the teenage years. I do not want my relationship with him leaving a mark on her. I would like your opinion on should I go with my instinct and leave? Thank you in advance for your responses.