Mazy - posted on 08/24/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )
I have been reading a lot of opinions on when & how to toilet train a child, and I am finding that a lot people are okay with waiting. There seem to be a lot of reasons for this, but one that I have come across several times now really gets to me: "It's their body". This is what I've seen/heard/read a bunch of woman say when referring to waiting until the child is ready themselves or waiting (sometimes until age 4 or longer).
What I want to know is, if you're saying that it is the child's body & you are respecting it by not "forcing" them into learning to use the toilet until it's on their terms, do you use this idea when it comes to other things such as hair cuts, dressing, bathing or immunizations? I mean, all of those things involve the child's body as well...are those child-led as well?
I'm also curious to hear from parents with older kids, or grandparents, to see how this children turned out. Is there anyone out there who has a teenage that toilet trained himself, and how is he? Is everything still respectful & are they just as independent? In retrospect, would anyone do anything differently?