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Trisha - posted on 01/14/2015

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If you receive a lot of support from your immediate family, I wouldn't even consider it.
Let the judge make the decision if need be.
Just try to be open with your ex, and let him know what you need the support, and want to be around your family. Don't be malicious.
It is not fair to you that his father made a choice to be with a woman who needed to live 2 hours away, and how you have to live with his choice.

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Raye - posted on 01/16/2015

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He believes it's selfish of you to stay, but he does not feel it's selfish of HIM to force you to uproot your while life, leave your home, job, and family and move based on a choice HE made without considering you or your child's best interests. No. Let it play out in court, because I doubt they will side with him. Your life where you are seems very stable, and just because he's remarried doesn't mean that his home is any better.

He may end up having to pay child support if he has your son less than 50% of the time, and I'm sure that's part of his wanting you to move. In fact, you should ask the court to grant YOU full custody with child support and allow him the standard visitation of every other weekend. Go for the gusto, but also be willing to compromise. You will still have to co-parent your child with this man.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/15/2015

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Yes, stand your ground with a great lawyer on your side. He seriously is awful for doing this to you. Maybe for now on, you should ONLY talk concerning meet up times for your son. Any further conversation should be denied. Sorry you are being manipulated and hurt by him. What a douche.

User - posted on 01/15/2015

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Little Miss - I agree. All along I have felt the way you are explaining but I'm at the point where my ex is wearing me down and shaming me for being selfish for not wanting to move. I will stand my ground. Thank you for your support.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/15/2015

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That makes sense, but don't you think your son will suffer being taken away from the rest of his family, friends, and the life he knows? Your ex is very selfish and inconsiderate. If he wants to see your son more often and share custody, he will make it happen regardless of location.

User - posted on 01/15/2015

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Little Miss- Thanks for your answer. My gut decision is to not move but I want to make sure it is the best decision for my son and his relationship with his father. The one person I do not want to suffer here is my son and if that means I make a choice I don't like I will.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/15/2015

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WHY would you even consider this? It is NOT an option. He moved, he can make the effort. That is totally ridiculous he would even ask this of you. If you are even considering this, I cannot help but feel you still need him in your life.

Let him take you to court.

User - posted on 01/15/2015

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Jodi, Thank you for your answer. That is exactly how I feel about the situation but wanted an outsiders opinion so I didn't feel like I was being selfish (like my ex suggests). His father is not open to having weekends and threatens using every available resource to him 9money) to fight me in court. Just have to stay strong! I have no worries about my parental fitness I just have to trust the judge will make the best decision for our son. It's scary to have an outsider make such a huge decision for you.

Jodi - posted on 01/14/2015

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I would not move. Look at the cons - you lose the immediate support of your family. It will be more expensive for you to live. You have to find a new EVERYTHING. It is really unfair of him to put you in this position. Your son will be okay if he isn't with his father 50% of the time. It isn't ideal, but staying where you are is far less damaging on your little family unit that his father's request is. Dad is suggesting uprooting his son from everything too. Removing ALL the stability in his life. He is unlikely to win that in court unless he can prove you are an unfit parent.

Is the father not open to having weekends?

User - posted on 01/14/2015

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Trisha, I do receive a lot of support from my immediate family and our son has a very close relationship with all of them since birth. Thank you for your time and advice!

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