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Susana - posted on 10/11/2015 ( 22 moms have responded )

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I am native from Peru and my kids sometimes tease me because I don't read English fast because I don't understand some of the words, so my child says you read like a level of 5th grade I think you need an aide. I work as an aide in the school so my child see me there and I have to be in the same class as at the beginning it was very embarrass for my teenager child. What should I tell my teenager child?.

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Jodi - posted on 10/12/2015

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Did you just change your name?????

Anyway, ask her to read a spanish newspaper. Then read it to her fluently.

Following that, have a conversation about how there should be respect for everyone, because we are all different.

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Gena - posted on 10/16/2015

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Dont worry its the same here in Switzerland,my sons speech is abit delayed because of all the languages we speak at home. I just told another mother the other day to please not speak German with him because he speaks and understands Swissgerman. The same always happens to my father as well. They think because he is a foreigner he can't speak Swissgerman so they speak German with him. It bothers him because he can speak Swissgerman...it might just sound abit strange. But he understands everything in Swissgerman.
We understand the Germans but they don't really understand us. Swissgerman is a weird language because there is no such thing as spelling something wrong. And watch canton has there own accent. We live in central Switzerland and my husband comes from Zürich. So even his Swissgerman is different to ours. And alot of people even laugh about that.
I am trying Hebrew but my mom said Yiddish might be easier because it has some German words in it.

Sarah - posted on 10/16/2015

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To me Polish was easy because both of my parents spoke it and it was my father's primary language. I have a hard time reading and writing Polish. Russian baffles me and it really isn't that different form Polish in cadence and verb usage but I still barely can understand any Russian. When we went to Jamaica they speak Patois; a blend of English, Spanish, French and I think Swissgerman, I can understand that like they are speaking English and I picked it up right away. The women were impressed, the men annoyed. It made for fun negotiations and conversations.....
Hebrew? Yikes, like proper Yiddish? You are braver than I. Whenever I have to scold or tell my kids in private I speak Polish, then English speaking people speak loudly and slowly to me. it is funny and a shame that in America we assume one language per person.

Gena - posted on 10/16/2015

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Sarah i love how people stare at me when i call my mom because we speak our own weird mix of english and swissgerman. They always ask me "What language was that??" . Thinking about it my whole family speaks a total weird mix of all languages. Atm my mom and i speek Afrikaans if we dont want my son to understand...but it wont be long and he will pick up on Afrikaans. Especially because he is going to South Africa now for a whole month. Polish must be difficult? I tried to learn Russian but i gave up..way to difficult for me. Now i am trying Hebrew...I will see how far I will get :)

Sarah - posted on 10/15/2015

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Ahh Gena, we are in the same boat! I will ask my kids to do something, in what I thought was English and then they stare at me and laugh...realizing i combined the two languages. Wow, five or six different languages? French is my kryptonite! No matter how I try, the Polish and Spanish get in the way. Thank You, Muchas Gracias, Dziękuję (pronounced jen-koo-ya)

Gena - posted on 10/15/2015

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I am sorry but my whole Family laughs when my dad speeks swissgerman. He grew up speaking English and Afrikaans. He is a white Southafrican. My mom is swiss and there is a big difference between swissgerman and german. I speak swissgerman and german fluently. I speek and understand Afrikaans. I had to learn French and Italian at School. To be honest in our house we speek so many languages that it doesnt even bother us when we make mistakes...we just laugh about it. Without being mean...because we all know that my dad for example speeks Afrikaans in slang_and if i use jail slang it would Sound pretty funny. We just dont take everything so serious when it Comes to languages.
oh and my pc is in german thats why some words start in capital. Merci,Danke Grazie.dankä and dankie_ Thank you!!!

Sarah - posted on 10/14/2015

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One trick that helped me a lot was watching TV with the subtitles running. So I would watch Polish (not easy to find) or Spanish programming and have the English subtitles going so I could hear what was said and if I did not understand I could then read it in English. The immersion was the most effective way, moved in with a Spanish speaking family for four months. They knew no English at all so I had to figure it out or manage without.

Susana - posted on 10/14/2015

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That;s really good Sarah. It's good that you can keep that space for you and your nanny and your son's grandmother. If we want to be sad there is always ways to see the negative part, but it's good to be optimistic. If my kids want to learn Spanish they will come to me and ask me I will be so happy to do it. My husband is like yours is not interested in other languages. I learned English a little bit in school when I was little and then when I was in my late 30s I met my husband and that's when I had to make an effort to learn more and more. Definitely, now having my kids is when I learned so much. I just don't like when they tease me or don't help me. Thanks,Susy

Sarah - posted on 10/13/2015

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You are right, it is just not his thing and I don't think I'd have been able to learn Spanish as a teen and young adult if I had not already learned a second language as a kid. It sort of kept that part of my brain working, does that make sense. One benefit is a can talk to my former nanny, who has become one of my dearest friends and my son's godmother, and say whatever I want to no matter who is around.

Susana - posted on 10/13/2015

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I know we feel frustrated,but don't forget to see the nice sides too. Maybe your husband isn't good for languages and he doesn't like it. You continue doing your best, Congratulations.

Susana - posted on 10/13/2015

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Dear Sarah: Trying to clarify your question I am not trying to take a class with my kids because I am a teacher aide and the school assigned me to work one on one and in that class as a coincidence my daughter is in and at the beginning was very hard because my daughter told me she didn't want me in. I had to explain that's my job and she got used to it. I got use to it too. My husband never like to learn a language. It's hard for him. I am just trying to be stronger and learn that what I say has value. I admire you knowing Polish and Spanish, very good.

Sarah - posted on 10/13/2015

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This is a frustration in my home too. My husband speaks only English. He knows a few phrases and understands some Polish and Spanish but not enough to carry on a conversation. I live in a community with a very large Latino population, and I have done my best to help my kids learn to speak Spanish. They can speak pretty well, but reading and writing is a more difficult task. The benefits of being bilingual or multilingual have benefited me professionally.
You write well in English, so be proud of that!

Susana - posted on 10/13/2015

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Dear Dove: Thanks a bunch. Yes, I wanted for them to learn Spanish, but the example of not wanting to learn is my husband. My husband is american and he doesn't know Spanish and he doesn't like it either, so my kids see the easiest way. I tried to teach them, but I needed the character and determination and recently now I am starting to speak up. My kids are intelligent and great students. I think what they need is a dad who tells them how important is to learn Spanish. These last years he told me teach them, but I needed to be relax and have more confidence. Being surrounded with good people in my job is helping me a lot. Take care and thanks so much Dove,

Susana - posted on 10/13/2015

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Jody: First of all, I want to tell you that my real name is Susana, but people call me Susy. Thanks for that observation. Also thanks so much for your support. I am learning to speak up. Sometimes you think that people who are born here have the right to tell you what's good or not, but I am learning to understand that we are all different and we need to be respected. Now, I feel better for many reasons, first for your advise and second for the experience that I am getting day by day, third for working in an american environment like the school. Fourth for the people who have a good heart and make me see better and fifth because of the bible. Thanks so much Jody and enjoy your week. Thanks for your support.

Susana - posted on 10/13/2015

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Dear Sarah: Thanks so much for understanding. I value your comments very much. Believe me that I try my best and I am learning to speak up and be assertive. I am feeling better in my school too. People appreciate me and value me for what I am.

Sarah - posted on 10/13/2015

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Now I get it! Your kids are being terribly disrespectful. When they can speak two or more languages fluently, and are literate then they appreciate how hard you worked to learn English!

Dove - posted on 10/11/2015

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How fast can your teenager read in YOUR native language?

English is hard and a lot of it does not make any sense. Tell your teenager that disrespecting and teasing you is not acceptable under any circumstances.

Sarah - posted on 10/11/2015

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I am fluent in English (my native language) and I speak Polish (thanks to my parents) and Spanish (thanks to neighbors and a whole lot of hard work in high school and college) I also did a Spanish immersion in college to perfect my speech. I can talk to kids and parents in my school district that speak Polish and Spanish. I think I could tutor a younger grade 8th or under in any form of Spanish, as I learned those techniques in college. Polish I can only speak, if I tried to teach reading or writing I'd be a laughing stock. I don't mean to impugn your intelligence but to help a child in a language you are not native too is very, very difficult. The cadence of the speech, the pronunciation and the verb conjugation of English if very different than Spanish. they may have a point. Try going to all English events; mass, sports, school stuff do you really understand everything?
I am not 100% of your question? Do you want to take class with your kids or work as an aide in that class?

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