Laura-Marie - posted on 06/02/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )
My daughter is 10 years old. The last time she saw her father was at her 7th birthday party. Prior to that - he was there for her birth and stayed around for maybe 5 days. From birth until my daughter was 7 years old, he has probably seen her a total of 20 times. All short visits. Most times, I brought her to his place and stayed while they visited because she was not familiar with him, there have been issues with his living arrangements and subsequent significant others, and alleged drug use (information given to me from other people who know us both). He has 5 other children by two other women. I am in contact with her siblings and one of the other mothers and the kids see each other as often as possible (usually on birthdays). He has recently been messaging me to see her. Apologizing. Saying that he loves us both and wants to see her soon. I am now in a new relationship. Moved out on my own (from my parents) for the first time in my life. I am doing well. My daughter is maturing beautifully. She knows her father from pictures and from stories I tell her to help her realize she does have other siblings. They don't know each other as people at all. I'm confused as to whether I should have a serious sit down conversation with him - just to see where he is at before 're-introducing' him to my daughter? Is it even fair for me to let him think there may be a chance that I would let him see her when he has been so much more than absent for practically her entire life? I don't want her to resent me for not attempting to at least open the door.