Carolyn - posted on 02/17/2014 ( 14 moms have responded )
I have a 4 year old son whose father only seen him less than 10 times in 4 years. He never wanted me to have my child but I figured I'm a big girl and this was part of my doing, so I will to take responsibility. And I don't regret it. I love my son, couldn't see my life without him. The first time he's met my son was when he was about 6 months old for an hr and never heard from him for months. I've tried to create this father and son bond but the father would always have some kind of excuse that he could not make it. It's been four years now, I've met a great man who loves my son, plays with him, takes him out fishing, all the things a great parent does with a child. We're a family now, i'm expecting a little girl and my son is thrilled. But on my son's 4th birthday, his father threatened me to take me to court. Why? He has not spent time with his son, wasn't around during the holidays, birthdays (even when he was invited). He wants to take my son for a couple of hours but I insisted that my son wouldn't be comfortable since he doesn't know him. He's a stranger to him. Furthermore, I don't trust him. One time I did let him take my son for half a day. My son returned with a broken blood vessel in his eye. His pediatrician wanted to call the cops on him. After that ordeal, how does he expect me to give him my son? My son isn't old enough to defend or look after himself. Until then he will need my supervision. Maybe once he turns 8 or 9, maybe then I can let him decide if he wants to spend time with his father. I've raised my son since day 1. I don't want to have to share custody or let him take him away from me. We're doing fine without him. Do I need to be worried?