Abusive Babys father being demanding

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I am a single mom and the father of my baby is insisting on spending time alone with our 8 month baby girl. I am not ok or comfortable with him taking her without me there. His lifestyle is not suited for a child and I am very worried. I don't mind him spending time with her when I am around but he said he doesn't like feeling watched while he spends time with her. Does he have a legal right to do this? Also I'd like to add that he has been verbally abusive towards me and was not there for me the entire pregnancy. Then after the baby was born he wanted back into our lives.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/24/2014

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So, he was ok to sleep with (lifestyle didn't bother you then...) but now that he wants to be involved with his child, he's not parent material? Sorry, honey, but that's not the way it works.

He's got just as much right to spend one on one time with his child as you do with yours...and the fact that both children are the same means that you quit treating her like your possession, and allow the relationship.

Legally, he can take you to court and request full custody if he wants, just as you may.

Get custody, visitation, and support set in court, with a judge. Then adhere to court orders.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/24/2014

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And, changing the title of your post after the fact only makes you look like a child. The OP originally stated "Baby's father being demanding". It was changed when the poster decided she didn't like being told that the child's father has the same rights the child's mother does.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/24/2014

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No, actually, it was an observation. You thought enough of him to sleep with him. Fact. Proof: the child that resulted.

I really like these 'my baby's father (gasp) wants his rights' posts. You asked if he had a legal right to request access to his child. The answer is yes he does.

If you want to make sure that your custody isn't completely revoked, file for custody/visitation and support. And adhere to the court's decision.

Dove - posted on 02/24/2014

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He's her father..... He has as much of a right to have his child alone as you do....

If you have legitimate concerns and can prove them... Petition the court for supervised visitations. Otherwise... all it will take for him to even get as much as joint custody is for him to take YOU to court.

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So, he was ok to sleep with (lifestyle didn't bother you then...) Uhm this is very judgmental remark.

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also i don't think of our baby as my possesion. I do have legitimate concerns for the safety of her well being.

User - posted on 02/24/2014

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He has as much a legal right to the baby as you do. The only way around this would be if you had a court order preventing him from seeing her on his own... in this day and age, no judge will allow that without a lot of solid evidence that he puts the baby in harms way. This is a tough part of being a single mom and you will have to learn to deal with this soon. If a Judge finds out you are preventing him from seeing her, you will get into trouble. If you are breast feeding, then you might have to be present or nearby, but there are ways around that if he wants... Learn to live with it. Its scary, I know... but you don't have a choice I'm afraid.

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