ADD, Anxiety & Depression - 9 yr old son

Jennifer - posted on 10/02/2012 ( 29 moms have responded )

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My son is 9 years old and has been diagnosed with ADD, Anxiety, and Depression. He also pulls out his eyelashes and has started pulling out his hair. He is currently takening Focalin XR and Zoloft...anyone else have these issues. Really need support!!

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Rebekah - posted on 10/02/2012

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Trichotillomania is actually an anxiety-based disorder.



Jennifer, my heart goes out to you! Perhaps you can find a support group near you that would give you the outlet and support you need. I wonder if the doctor's office you are working with has any contact information on that. If not, you could look into NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness. They have resources all over (are you in the US?). Many resources are geared for the individual with mental health issues, but they do also have resources for the families of the individual. One program is called "Family to Family" and its purpose is to help educate and offer support to families, including learning how to cope and manage being the caregiver.



Good luck to you and your son...I hope he gets the help he needs.

Mellany - posted on 10/08/2012

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I feel for you. My daughter has been diagnosed with anxiety, motor tic disorder and ADHD. It's so hard to watch her struggling. What helped us was taking her to a neurological developmental pediatrician. It was the first time I felt like someone really understood. We had our daughter on Focalin for two years at the suggestion of her pediatrician. I should have realized that the Focalin is a stimulant and was actually making her anxiety worse. She is now on Lexapro for anxiety and Intuniv for ADHD and motor tic disorder. Her anxiety is better than it has ever been. ADHD is also improving as are her tics. We will probably increase the Intuniv if she can tolerate it. Hang in there. Keep trying until you find a doctor that "gets it."

Karyn - posted on 10/05/2012

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I am very sorry for you & your son, my 11 y/o DD was diagnosed w/ADHD in 1st grade, now she is starting to have anxiety, depression issues along with being ODD which is REALLY exacerbated by puberty hormones!!!



Make sure he is checked out thouroughly medically speaking to rule out and biologic reasons for these issues.



Make sure you have a GOOD neurologist (go to CHAAD support group in your area) and talk to them about these issues, sometimes you need to keep tweaking the meds to get it just right. I have also realized that I cannot "make" my daughter better by being on top of her all the time like a drill seargeant it is damaging our relationship. So I think I have to back off & focus on love love love & support. Just my perspective. She is going to start seeing her own therapist this week

AMBIA - posted on 10/05/2012

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I have a 8 year old son and he is also taking the Focal in XR but he is not taking anything else. Before the medicine he was aggressive but when he started the meds he is very calm. Maybe the doctors should take away the Zoloft. Just try the one for awhile. Just be very patient with him they need to find a combination of medicine that will help him. Try don't some kind of treat or something special for him when he does good thing's. This will make him wanna stop something's that he does just to receive his special treat. And remember if you have other kids that he is the only one who receives that treat. Its hard as a parent to watch and go through this with your child but just take it slow and be patient. He will be OK. Yesterday the doctors told me that my 6 year old daughter has ADHD so I'm going to go through this again with her. Feel free to contact me anytime about this issue cause its good to talk about your situation with those that understand this illness. I'll pray for y'all.

Jessica - posted on 10/04/2012

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Hi my son is 8 and has reactive attachment disorder and oppositional defiant disorder. He is on folcalin xr and seraquil plus resperidone. He is more under coil now but we having been dealing with this since he was 2... we have in a special program at school for emotionally problem children and he is doing much better. We went through getting hit property damage. We seem to have the roght combo of meds and the biggest thing I have learned is not to yell but it is so difficult. U have ro.stand your ground everyday be consistent. I struggle.with this every day. Good luck

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Lorin - posted on 10/09/2012

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I do not have the exact same issues but my son is 13yo and in the 4% of growth. He is really tiny for his age and depressed and anxious and may have ADD (as his sister does). The counselor wants to put him on antidepressants. I do know how scary it can be to put a small child on anti depressants and meds. I feel like our culture helps perpetuate this crazy society that has more and more of our beautiful children all anxious and depressed at such young ages. It is hard as a mom to know that I cannot solve his problems for him, hopefully with him we will beat this. But...if meds will help him?...we are willing to try. How are the meds working for your son? Blessings to you mama.

Lorin

Lisa - posted on 10/05/2012

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I've also heard of diet changing making all the difference! Look at how many kids seem to have these issues today... I think it's a variety of things, but changing his diet could help a lot- better than drugs that can cause other problems as well as dependency. :)

Tracie - posted on 10/05/2012

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Has he been sick with strep? did this start happening over night like he went to bed one night and woke up with different Anxietys.. and then started to do all of this? Google search P.A.N.D.A.S.

My Daughter has this as well as a lot of kids Docs are just getting involved with it

I hope this helps

Tracie

It can be called PANS also

Abigail - posted on 10/05/2012

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My son will be 9 in February he has adhd and anxiety he takes focalin XR he doesn't rip out his hair but chews on his shirts, soaks them. I sympathize with you our kids should be care free and not have adult problems and adult stress!

Yvonne - posted on 10/04/2012

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Im in the same boat as u Jennifer, my daughter was diagnosed but we'very had no great help as of yet. But im going to fight till I get what is best for my girl. Never give up no matter how hard things may get.

Yvonne - posted on 10/04/2012

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My daughter is 8 and has been diagnosed with adhd/add and borderline mentally delayed by 3/4 yrs. She has severe anxiety and depression which im fighting to get her help as both the hospital and mental health clinic havent been any help what so ever. I took her in after she held a knife to herself saying she wanted to kill herself.. she has bouts of behavior problems which im strugling with. Im taking her back to the doctors to try get her on medication to help with her depression and anxieties.

Pauline - posted on 10/04/2012

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My son has been diagnosed with a number of issues including ADHD, ODD, ANXIETY, and OCD. He was not diagnosed with depression though. After trying many different ADHD drugs without much effectiveness, they put him on endep however all this did was make him put on a lot of weight. Eventually they put him on Lovan (does have another name but cant think of it right now sorry). This is an anti anxiety drug. I found this helped more than anything else as it seems the anxiety was contributing to his anger issues (and OCD), as when he got anxious he got angry. Unfortunately my son refuses to take medication now but I do believe it helped when he was on it.

KARA - posted on 10/04/2012

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For what it is worth...my girlfriend's son was having major anxiety, anger, etc issues. They were taking him to a therapist ... which wasn't helping. They ended up modifying his diet! I don't know all that they removed...but he has made a 180 degree turn around. I am sure sugar etc was removed.



GOOD LUCK TO YOU:)! Can be so hard being a parent at times! Sending positive vibes or prayers or whatever you believe in:)!

XOXO

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Nichole - posted on 10/04/2012

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My son is also 9 and has ADD/ADHD symptoms. I have taken him to the doctor but his symptoms aren't severe enough to be diagnosed. He also has anxiety and bites his nails and the skin on the tips of his fingers. I have taken him to a therapist who suggested meditation. We have him sit still, be quiet, close his eyes, and breathe slowly...set a timer for 1 minute to start and work your way up. She suggested doing this 3 times a day and have him describe how his body feels (stomach, arms, legs, head, etc) when he's meditating. That helps my son calm down and refocus. I have also ordered a supplement called Synaptol that I have heard really helps and it is all natural. Check out the site at http://www.hellolife.net/mobile/ maybe your son can take some of the supplements along with his current meds. They have supplements for ADD/ADHD, anxiety, depression, OCD, and more. I hope you and your son are able to find some relief.

Connie - posted on 10/04/2012

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Glad you have him under care and medication. When I took my son in at 9, he's in his 20s now, the doctor was most concerned about his depression and felt he might be suicidal. Not what a mother wants to hear! We had been dealing with his ADD and OCD issues without medication, but it finally got really bad and I felt I needed an IEP and someone with authority saying that YES, he had issues. My son's depression stemmed from school, problems with bullies and the teachers having too high of expectations for him. We made it through, but it was dicey. I SO feel for you. It makes me relive the anxiety and the just wanting to make his world good and perfect and being unable to do so. I would reiterate that medication is VERY individual and not the same for everyone. Several medications did nothing for my son and possibly made his condition worse. He actually stumbled upon the proper medication by chance, doing the STUPID thing of taking one of his friends when he was 16. He said it was the first time in his life he had ever felt normal. It was Adderall, which I believe was relatively new then. However, you can see that we didn't get there for 7 years!! It was a constant juggling of medication and doses and nothing seemed to ever be "just right." Even today, his dosage and mix of medications has to be tweeked fairly regularly. My son said that the thing that kept him sane and from hurting himself when things got really bad, was knowing how much I absolutely loved and adored him and how devastated I would be to lose him. You can't spend enough time and attention getting that across to your boy. You are his safe place and his most ardent advocate. We ended up homeschooling, which was the best thing to happen to him. He did great in college and is now one of the top in his field. But the journey was tortuous, and as others have said, you need all the support you can possibly surround yourself with. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Jessica - posted on 10/04/2012

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Jennifer,

I have 2 sons with similar issues. I know how hard, scary, lonely out can feel!! Support is the most important thing a mother needs while dealing with kind of stuff. I'd love to give you any additional info I have or just to have someone that's in same boat to talk to. I don't go on this site often but please feel free to email me anytime. I'd love to help in anyway I can.my email is jessjjones79@Yahoo.com

Best of luck to your family

Jessica

Sara - posted on 10/04/2012

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My sons are younger than yours and not experiencing the same issues, but I have recently come across a really good resource that I think may benefit you. It's called Celebrate Calm and the website is www.celebratecalm.com. I am recommending it to all the families I know, especially those with children who struggle with ADD and depression. The parenting CDs are great. I wonder if they could help you? The CDs are pricey, but they can work with you on the price if you email them. That's what I did. It was totally worth it for me.

Lisa - posted on 10/04/2012

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I've found that prayer works really well- as I've worked through issues with my son in school. Not the precise ones you've had- but lots of energy, ability to focus, being impulsive, not listening, etc. It's so troubling as a parent. I didn't want to get my son diagnosed because I didn't want him labeled and I knew as a Christian Scientist that this could be healed. He's doing so much better now- go to http://christianscience.com/ for more information. You can talk with a practitioner to help you both through this. You're not alone, and he's loved and cared for by his Father/Mother God.. he's loved, perfect and complete. That's the real him that God made.

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My son is nearly 13. We first started seeing a psychologist for adhd when he was 4. As he has got older and there are the signs of puberty, common to be early in adhd children, his 'adhd'behaviour has improved greatly (obviously replaced by the grunting unhelpful, unsociable puberty behaviour).. I hope this is to stay, so hopefully this is a little light for the end of your tunnel.

Char - posted on 10/04/2012

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Are you taking him to his regular Dr. or a Psychiatrist?

I don't feel General Practicioners are qualified to prescribe those kinds of medicines.



It's important that he be on the right medicine for him

There are hundreds of anti-depressants and each take 2-3 weeks before becoming effective. If you don't notice a difference in his behavior at that time, he needs a different prescription.



Also, there are lots of side effects to many anti-depressants. Make sure you are made aware of all of them.



Remember, Depression, Anxiety and ADHD are all different disorders and have to be treated seperately.



I speak from personal experience. My Dr. & I determined that I probably suffered from chronic depression and attention deficit since I was 15 and didn't discover it until I was in my late 40's

Amy - posted on 10/04/2012

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Katherine, lol you didn't goof at all. Zoloft is used for many things, infact depression was the main purpose of the medicine utility was proven to help greatly with OC D & (SAD) severe anxiety disorder. I started having OCD at 11 or 12 but my parents kept saying I was crazy and I should quit thinkin about it. Ocd is a fo!89rm of anxiety so is phobias and panic attacks. My children well my 12

Brenda - posted on 10/04/2012

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My son who is 14 has anxiety attacks too I put him in a support group and hevis doing much better. They helped him overcome it without the meds.

Kim - posted on 10/03/2012

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Hi Jennifer! I'm sorry to hear about your son. My son is 9yrs old and he was diagnosed last year with ADHD with anxiety. He is on Focalin ER right now and also seeing a therapist. Hopefully the therapist will get to the heart of the problem. It does take a while for therapy to work because it depends on the issues your son is dealing with. Make sure you have a pen and paper to take note which I did for the initial interview with the therapist. Good Luck!

Amidy - posted on 10/03/2012

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My 7 year has not been diagnosed yet, his testing is in a few days, but I'm sure he has adhd and maybe some other disorders. He has been in counseling for a few months but hasn't been that helpful so far. He has anger issues and causes a lot of property damage as well as just hitting his older siblings. He throws major fits over the tiniest things. I feel like I have to walk on eggshells around him just to keep the peace. Today he was suspended from the bus again. He doesn't have the depression or anxiety but he does become withdrawn when I want to talk to him.

I really hope that a diagnosis, information and, medication will help us. I want baby boy back.

Jennifer - posted on 10/03/2012

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Thank you for all your replies. He has been on ADD meds for 4 years and Zoloft for 2 years. The anxiety and depression didn't start until 2nd grade and he's in 4th grade now. We are seeing a psychiatrist at the end of the month who I've heard is wonderful.

Katherine - posted on 10/02/2012

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Ok just googled Zoloft and OCD. Now I feel a bit foolish. Zoloft IS used for OCD. Thanks for pointing that out.

Becky - posted on 10/02/2012

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Actually, Katherine, OCD is an anxiety disorder. The trichotillomania could very well be part of the anxiety issue. We also don't know how long her son has been on these medications to determine if he's on the right ones or not. What works for one, may not work for another.

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