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Amy - posted on 02/11/2014
An addict won't get help till they hit rock bottom and for everyone that is different. For some rock bottom is getting arrested or losing a job, for others it's death. You should look into a family support group of addicts and attend a few meetings. Depending where you live there may be programs or counselors you can sit down with and talk to. An addicts brain processes differently than yours and mine and they can only think about their next high not what they are doing to the loved ones around them.
Unfortunately getting him out of the house may be your only option right now if he doesn't want to get help. You don't want his choices to negatively impact your 13 year old daughter.
[momoftwo] - posted on 02/08/2014
One word of advice is don't enable him by giving him money. If you have ever watched the show called Intervention, a lot of the parents always get sob stories about bills or whatever from the addics and they would get money from their parents and run off with it to buy drugs. That's one of the biggest mistakes parents make, it's hard not to because everyone wants their kids to be okay but that's all they will do with that money.
Narantuya - posted on 02/11/2014
Dear Amy, thank you for your advice. I went to Alanon meeting last wednesday,
My son back home yesterday, he didnt look like drugged, we talked. He has that sweet kid look all the time when he is not hi.im giving him one more chance this time , idk.thanks for listening.
[momoftwo] - posted on 02/10/2014
You're most welcome. I can't imagine what you are going through. My children are still very very young and hopefully NEVER go down the path of drugs because I will be sure to guide them the right path but if ever they did do them I know I would have to do the tough love thing as well.
I definitely would do an intervention to just get everyone to tell them how they feel and care about them and how they would love for them to quit the drugs and all that stuff but if that failed, I would not give them a penny.
I hope he will realize how much he is ruining his life.
Be strong and god bless.
[momoftwo] - posted on 02/08/2014
Tough love sometimes is where you have to be, I mean you can only do so much and if they don't want the help then the only thing you can do is make them face the real world by making them live on their own and trying to survive on their own. You can help him look for a place and job but its up to him to keep that job to be able to live and hopefully get off the drugs.
Narantuya - posted on 02/08/2014
Yes he lives with me. Last year he started going to college. And he had part time job. But 2 months ago i found out that
he is using drugs.i dont think he goes school now, and job.
He stay home 2-3 days then he gone few days.
Last time he came home,me and my husband , we both try to talk
With him, but it didnt goes well.i told him that dont
Use drugs, but he didnt seem like he even care.
My husband told him move out from home.
I really dont want him to move out, and live with that friends he hangin out.
But lookin at your son , acting like crazy person, its very hard and stressful. We also have a13 year old daughter.im very scared, really stuck . I dont know what to do.
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