Adding another baby to our blended family

Nicholle - posted on 10/20/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I have two children. They are ages nine and five. My husband has a daughter she is 15. I really want to have a baby that is ours. My husband does not he says that my boys are his and that's all that matters . He is a great dad to my two boys. But I just feel that something is missing and I need that bond and connection with my husband. I don't know what to do or to say that can help change his mind. . This is something that is very important to me and I don't think he understands how important it is . Any advice on things I can say to convince my husband?

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Sarah - posted on 10/20/2015

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Why do you feel you need a baby to share a bond and connection with your husband? Your bond and connection should not be a job of a baby. Enjoy the family you have. Enjoy the embrace your husband has taken to your kids and embrace his child. Enjoy the lawn you have and make that grass greener instead of thinking the grass is greener on the otherside. Not always is that the case. Sometimes the grass gets full of weeds when you have the his/mine/ours.

Jodi - posted on 10/20/2015

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Was this a discussion BEFORE you decided to get married? These things should really be part of the pre-marriage discussion and if it isn't, then this shouldn't be a case of convincing your husband that you are right about this. If this was so important to you, it should have been discussed before you made the commitment. So in that case, perhaps you should consider taking to a counsellor about it so that YOU can accept your husband's point of view? You say "I don't think he understands how important it is", but you aren't understanding why he doesn't want to have another child either. Seems like there is lack of understanding on both sides here.

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