ADHD/ASPERGERS

Darci - posted on 04/21/2011 ( 14 moms have responded )

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My son is 12 and has severe ADHD and ASPERGERS. We are at our wits end! Marriage is on the brink because we cant agree on how to handle our son. Violent tantrums, extremely impatient and defiant. Trouble in school with disrupting class. Gets sent out to the hall every day in AT LEAST one class. Going to pediatrician today to discuss ADHD meds. He has tried many stimulants and they made him hyper. Strattera made him mean. Does anybody happen to know if there is a chance a stimulant might work as he gets older? It has been 2 1/2 years since we tried one. Grasping at straws here!! He is on Abilify 5mg since kindergarten. Tried upping the dose but made him too emotional. Tried weaning off of it to see what would happen and all his tics got worse and school was a disaster. Any advice would be really appreciated!! HELP!!!

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JuLeah - posted on 04/21/2011

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Many folks in your situation choose to go a non med way and have found amazing results with diet .... the research is out there to back this up, but it takes work. I know you know this, but I say it anyway. Your son does not do this to hurt you, or make you mad. He hates it as much as you do, feels just as trapped, just as confused.

Rebecca - posted on 04/21/2011

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ADHD and aspergers run in my family because of my experiance as a child constintly being put on different meds and hating the side efects and the way they made me feel I do not believe in medicating my sister has found for her boy taking omega 3 has helped him to calm down and focus for my boy I use behavior therapy I would definatly recomend asking you doc to refer you to a behavior therapist

Barb - posted on 04/25/2011

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His first rule for everday is Say I Love you ( Childs Name) as the last thing your child hears every day. And give yourself ME time everyday.

Amanda - posted on 04/22/2011

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when you are at your ped, ask for an Sensory processing dysfunction evaluation from an Occupational therapist, I have been told by a speech therapist, who happens to have three kids herself with SPD and she has told me that a good rule of thumb is that if a child is put on ADD meds and they dont work, that it might very well be SPD. Also go to the library and get the book "The Out of Sync Child" by Carol Stock Kranowitz

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Darci - posted on 04/26/2011

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I also wanted to say..since my first post asking about stimulants,.. I put him on Adderall 10mg REGULAR, not XR and so far it has helped!! We tried the XR before and it was a disaster. Not sure why the difference, but there is one. Today was first day at school with a low dose and EVERY teacher noticed an improvement. Not kicked out of class at all today!!! Maybe too soon to tell, but I will take these good days when I can get them!! Home has been peaceful too! It hasnt been for years. No screaming for 48 hours. I cant tell you how happy that makes me. I'm sure you all can relate!!

Darci - posted on 04/26/2011

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I agree on telling your child you love him every day. I have told him from day one. Not a day has gone by without it. Every night for years when I tuck him in we have a ritual. I say.."how do you suppose, out of ALL the boys in the whole wide world, I got the best one?" He says.."your lucky!" I say "You bet I am!" May sound goofy, but he cannot go to sleep without it and neither can I!

Amanda - posted on 04/25/2011

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I agree about looking at his diet. I thought for a long time that my son was autistic (as an infant) or had ADHD and with a change of diet his symptoms decreased. He has texture sensitivies (food and environmental), taste and smell sensitivities, and emotional responses. We still have issues with flair ups from environmental allergies, but everything is more controlled or subdued. It won't fix everything, and your situation sounds harder, but it might help. Trying won't hurt anyway. Also, if it is an allergy you might find some relief from using an antihistimine or other anti-allergy treatement for a week or so. If it helps you'll have an idea that this might be part of the cause.

Barb - posted on 04/25/2011

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MATTHEW HUTTEN go online and look him up. My son is 14 and has Aspergers Matthew has been a life saver I have been using his online courses and direct Email support for a while and he has been the most help ever. We have moved up to the teen program and it is awesome.

Barb - posted on 04/25/2011

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Don't give up and don't get discouraged, you know your child and you know if something is wrong.

Darci - posted on 04/24/2011

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Thanks! Yes I am new to this. I am looking for any help I can get. I am going to take him to Iowa City to have an all day evaluation. I think we may be missing something here. He has many many asperger characteristics, but I feel his psychiatrist was a quack and I want a very detailed eval. I appreciate all the tips!

Barb - posted on 04/24/2011

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Here is a link to that community as i know Circle of Mom's can be overwhelming sometimes and it appears you are new with only 3 posts so far.

http://www.circleofmoms.com/autismasperg...

I've read there is a link between processed food, dyes like Red #5 or Yellow #6 that heightens children's problems with ADHD and/or Aspergers. So obviously diet is going to play a very important role.

I agree with all these ladies, the new drugs should be the last resort and to try to get him into see a behaviorist before trying to dope him up.

Best of luck to you.

Here is another link that may help you out:
http://www.parentingaspergerscommunity.c...

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Amanda has offered some great advice! Your son may have been misdiagnosed. I'm not sure if you know, but there is a forum on here for autism/ asperger's/ PDD-NOS awareness that you may find helpful. :)

Darci - posted on 04/23/2011

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Okay Thanks! I will. I do know he can not tolerate anything on his face (washcloth, water) and he gets hot very easily and goes crazy when that happens.

Darci - posted on 04/22/2011

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Thanks for the advice! I will buy some Omega 3's and look into vitamins and supplements. I feel bad that my son has to deal with these feelings inside he doesn't know what to do with. I prefer the non-med way too.

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