Adhd child 3rd grade continueing behavior issues

Kathy - posted on 09/13/2013 ( 27 moms have responded )

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Since Kingdergarden he been acting out. bitting, spitting, hitting, non compliance to classroom rules and at school. we tried everything take away stuff, praise him on his awesome days. reward jars, nothing sticks. two weeks into new school year he bites. I cannot tolerate this behavior and its not acceptable. Hes on Meds and does ok with it. If this keeps up, will esculate to a point of no return and I don't want to go down that road.

Help my next thought is to bring him to some of those group homes, or boot camps to show him. maybe if I scare him enough might wake him up. I don't know if that is right or wrong. I cannot get into his head.

Help.
Kathy R massachusetts

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Karen - posted on 09/15/2013

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I agree with spanking and majority of people I know do as well. I don't believe in beating huge difference!! but how is your child going to learn that something is bad when all you do is put them in a corner or punish them because when they get older they might go kill someone or rob or rape ;etc. because they aren't scard of nothing because all they been taught is well if your bad your just get time out or get your things taken away. My whole family that believes in spankings none of us has been in jail or prison and are all doing good no drugs or drinking problem so those spankings most of paid off:)

Theresa - posted on 09/14/2013

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Its not illegal to spank its illegal to beat i myself do not spank but i do know its not illegal as long as u don't beat them children need love not beatingd i ground mine corner take away dsi comp ipad phone etc

Devon - posted on 09/14/2013

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Now to answer Kathy's question. Try to change his diet, experts are really looking into how diet can lesson the cause of adhd. Also, my twin girls have adhd and the one also has ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder), which is when they have bad behavior. He might have this and you need to speak with his doctor about getting him tested for ODD as well. Also, I think counseling would really benefit him. my girls are in counseling and it seems to help. good luck :)

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April - posted on 11/01/2014

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Hey Kathy maybe get him into a school for children with special aids where the teachers are trained to be able to help him. =)

Jessica - posted on 09/19/2013

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Hi Kathy, Kids with ADHD are tough to handle. You said he does ok on meds.... Are you wanting to take him off the meds or find a natural vitamin that could help? ADHD is a chemical imbalance not a disease like a lot of these doctors make it seem. There are natural ways to help the chemical imbalance. Boot camp and group homes will not be able to help the chemical imbalance either =(, I think those thing work for kids who are just bad because they think its cool. If you would like some information please let me know. I work for a wellness company that has a natural medication that helps with ADHD. Jessica

Theresa - posted on 09/19/2013

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So true taz and maria oh yes my daughter has a teacher this yr that said if we don't wanna take time to read with her she can stay afterschool excuse me she read to me and my husband everynight n double on weekends n now while we r painting she reads sounds silly but were moving n had to paint our new house n she does hope that dont make me look like a bad mommy but she's still reading to us lol

Maria - posted on 09/19/2013

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I know someone with ADHD and his mother gave him USANA probiotic and took him off the meds also gave him fish oil from USANA. Also the vitamins from USANA, she thinks it's made a real difference. Have you heard of the Gaps diet or SCD diet? Apparently it brings children with ADD, ADHD and in the autism spectrum back to normal. My son has PDD-NOS and I have changed a lot of things. Don't send him to boot camp that doesn't solve his problem. Don't hit him either it won't fix things. The school needs to deal with him in a kind and loving manner and find a way to make things work.

Taz - posted on 09/18/2013

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My son was having problems last year in 2nd grade too,most of it I found to be the teachers fault. My son and the teacher just didn't click,she wanted me to get him on meds I refused. Now we homeshool:-) Not saying that you should homeschool but sometimes these teachers just dont have enough patience for our kids that are outspoken or have learning disabilities. They are overworked and have to many kids in the classroom

Theresa - posted on 09/18/2013

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I went n had a parent teacher conference last yr n because i was moving my hands i was tild i had violent hannds i said were not here for me were here cause ur teacher doesn't respect my baby girl n if she did she would respect her they would get alone

Karen - posted on 09/18/2013

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I agree Theresa some teachers don't want to deal with kids like my daughter. I'm just glad my daughter has one teacher that is always positive and helpful. Also children aren't stupid they can feel when a teacher doesn't want them.

Marlar - posted on 09/18/2013

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That's true they would rather label them as a problem child and other kids can pick up on that kids are smarter then we give credit. Every morning I have to build my son up to take on the world and I have no problem doing it.just had to write a note today to his teacher about not giving extra insight on his class and homework so I know were on the same page and what I need to work on to help him and her

Rawn - posted on 09/18/2013

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Rawn - posted on 09/17/2013

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I do not have a child with any condition however, I do have a family member who is autistic and has add. I also know people whose kids have these conditions. I've been able to help them by educating them on all natural products. If anyone is interested you can message me as I am not here to sell anyone anything. Thank you.

Ebere - posted on 09/16/2013

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My daughter is good because she gets an equal balance of love and discipline. I don't need to give bad behaviour some fancy medical term and drugs.. She gets spanked sometimes and not beaten.. I'm sure you know the difference

Marlar - posted on 09/16/2013

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Oh I for got to say ask your doc about vitamin b6 100 mg twice a day works great with their moods I give crushed up in juice doc told me to try worked wonderfully I could tell different when he did or did not have it

Marlar - posted on 09/16/2013

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Sounds to harsh my son is same age talk to him see if any bulling is going. On when my son did that was the problem also talk to docs about maybe changing his meds that may not be working with him take some Long deep breathes and and just love him it will all work out. Let me know my son is a work of art daily and god only knows how we're going to make it I do a lot of different things to see what works hey I made a avenger movie out of action figures he loved it

Karen - posted on 09/15/2013

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Kathy my daughter is ADHD and been learning more and more about it. She's been on medicine for 1 year and honestly it did help her learn a little in class but this year she's been getting I'm trouble at school pushing kids and at home she's constantly crying and just not her self and we tried different meds and I've decided to take her off medicine and do all natural like total change her diet no dyes all whole wheat also fish oil omega 3 they researched it saying its helping kids with ADHD and they have chewables at stores or online cheaper. I also think you shouldn't spank your
Child for something they can't control ADHD children are normal but they have a hard time controlling themselves like a handicap ; they should be taught it was wrong and some kind of discipline but not always spank the child. Some children need encouragement and I'm learning that more and more because now I'm dealing with the teachers at school been negative and my 7yr old doesn't want to go to school and she shouldn't feel this way and its really hard so best of luck to you .

Devon - posted on 09/14/2013

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To Ebere that posted about spanking. It is VERY VERY wrong advice. Your daughter is probably good because she is probably scared out of her mind that if she does something wrong or says something wrong she is going to get beat!!! In America it is now illegal to spank your kids. People can't even swing there kids around in a circle playing or they will go to jail or have children and youth on them! Maybe you need to re-evaluate why your daughter acts good, cause its not because she wants to that's for dang sure!!!

Mardi - posted on 09/14/2013

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What you need to look at is his diet, eliminate anything thats not natural and see what foods trigger what behaviours before introducing them back into his diet (lots of adhd kids have food intolerances that come out in behaviour/moods)..

Next you need strong structure and scheduling for their day. And he needs consequences that reach his currency.

Hugs darl, you will need hte patience of a saint to get through this, but if it means you have a happier child at the end it can all be worth it.
ASk your drs about slow release meds, so that its not all hitting him at once and wearing off, but more slowly realeasing throughout the day.

Ebere - posted on 09/14/2013

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Besides I'm a christian and our Bible says "spare the rod and spoil the child". Also says "if you beat the child, the child will not die" and so others I don't remember so I have the backing of my God and my religion

Ebere - posted on 09/14/2013

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Michelle I don't know how it works in America, but over here, people who don't spank their kids are the ones who end up with violent and badly behaved kids.. I do spank mine at times and she's a very well behaved girl.. She seemed like she was gonna be hard headed, but the spanking helped..so don't call it bad advice please.

Michelle - posted on 09/14/2013

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Spanking is illegal in some places and all it teaches the child is to resort to violence.
Not very helpful advice at all.

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