adhd meds damaging our kids REBUTTAL

Sabrena - posted on 04/06/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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If you dont have a child with adhd dont judge those of us who do. My son is 8 and has been on adhd meds since he started school. I dont want him on stimulants but this isnt about me. He has tried numerous non stimulant adhd meds and goes to behavior therapy. In school he still wasnt able to focus and do his work, he was constantly in trouble. He had to go on stimulants because that is what he needed. He now makes straight A's and is making friends. It isnt about me wanting him to be perfect, im not that selfish but i do want him to fulfill his potential and his medication allows him to do that. How dare you condemn us for putting our children on meds like this for ourselves or blindly listening to a shrink. We all try to do the best for our children and should not be condemned by someone who doesnt understand our childs needs.

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Gena - posted on 04/11/2015

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I was never diagnosed as a child because I am not hyperactive. I have ADD and I only started with meds once my son was born. I am thankful for the meds because I can finally be focused on something and get things finished. Before the medication I had a very hard time focusing on one thing at a time or even to get the most simplest things done finished. I am doing a whole lot better now.
When it comes to children taking meds I think for those who really need it,like your son,it's the best thing you can do. I don't like telling people I take Ritalin. I feel judged sometimes. But they don't know me and my situation. By giving your son medicine you are helping him!! And that's what counts..not what other people think or say. You know your son the best and what he needs!

Sabrena - posted on 04/11/2015

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I never want my son to be a "zombie" so I have him on a medication that still allows him to be himself but takes enough edge away from the energy that he can focus on his school work. This allows him to get the grades he deserves to get and he doesn't feel like he is different than others his age. Finding the right medication went a long way towards him making and keeping friends. He no longer feels like an outsider and his energy level now matches his peers.

Jodi - posted on 04/07/2015

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Unfortunately, the reality is, our kids are overdiagnosed and overmedicated. That doesn't mean that some children shouldn't be medicated and aren't diagnosed correctly, but unfortunately, there are instances of those who medicate children at a whim, when there are other ways of managing the behaviour. That isn't a judgement of your personal situation - every situation is different. However, way too many kids are getting lumped in the ADHD category simply because they are a behaviour problem at school, so medicating them is easy. In fact, it isn't medication they need.

In all honesty, when I read that the rate of diagnosed ADHD is 11% (Australia) I know there is no way that can possibly be the case. Some of those children are behaviour problems because they lack consistent and appropriate discipline.

So yes, in some cases, it is appropriate to judge an ADHD diagnosis, because for some, it is the excuse they need to take the pressure off blaming themselves as parents. But that is not to say that this is the situation in all cases. There are very genuine cases out there that need medication. But there are others that simply need better diets and consistent boundaries.

Chana - posted on 04/06/2015

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I am not here to condemn or judge you or anyone else that puts their son or daughter on adhd meds. My only concern, from the stand point of both a parent and a Pre-School teacher, is that there are parents out there that WANT their children on meds because they are busy, active children and the parents can not or do not want to parent them so they immediately assume they are adhd. I believe from your post that you have done everything possible to keep your son off of meds and that is to commended. If all other alternatives have been tried and failed and meds are what is in the best interest of any child then that is what should be done. However, I know we have all heard the stories parents putting children on adhd meds and now they sit on the chair like a bump on a log and although that my be convenient for some parents I don't think that is in the best interest of the any child. Give yourself a pat on the back for going to great lengths to do what is best for your son.

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