Jennifer - posted on 09/23/2012 ( 11 moms have responded )
I wanted to seek people's advice. We have an 8.5 yr old foster child, who has been in our home for awhile. He calls us Mr and Mrs and then our first names. I HATE IT! We plan on adopting him, and yes, yes, I know it takes time for these kids to call us mom and dad, but the whole Mr and Mrs Title is really interfering with his perspective of seeing us for WHO we are and the roles we have in his life. We are not a teacher, we are not the postman, and we are not the daycare attendant. I do not want to be referred to as this! Sorry, I know I sound and am upset. I do not want to be referred to as Mr and Mrs. I just don't.
On the other side of this, we have a younger foster child in our home now, and the older one is telling him to call us that. I don't want this AT ALL. I have told the little one AND our older son he is not to call us that/teach him it's okay.
Suggestions? I don't want "Auntie" because he has aunts, uncles, etc. When we introduced him to our family, we purposefully used "grandma" "grandpa" "aunt" etc because we don't want them to feel the same as we do.
I do lay on the side of not forcing him to use mom and dad till he's ready, but there HAS to be a better alternative than Mr ___ and Mrs ___.