Ann - posted on 08/31/2012 ( no moms have responded yet )
My daughter was adopted at 3 months. She grew up in a loving family.
She has two half-sisters and a half-brother. They were all grown by the time we adopted her. She grew up with family get togethers, family values, and lots of love in the family. Now that she is an adult (30) and living over 800 miles away, she seems to have pulled away from us.
It seems to have happened since the move which was two years ago.
I don't try to be intrusive in her life but I don't even feel a part of her life anymore. She has a boyfriend she lives with who is of a different race.
She knows we will all accept him if he genuninely makes her happy, is good to her, and they share the same values and interests. Her dad and I have both met him. I don't think that is the issue. Really,l don't know what the issue is. I text, I call, I email. I hear nothing. She called us 5 times last year--mother's day, father's day, our birthdays and Easter. I know she is busy with work and her own life but I feel so heartbroken at this moment. It's like we don't even have a daughter anymore. Do any of you who are adopted have any solutions to this problem. I've reached out to her by writing her an email once a week just sharing what her dad and I have been doing and asking her how all is going with her. I don't expect a response right away,but I would think she would answer within a couple of weeks.
Please give me some insight as to what may be going on with her.
She doesn't seem to be upset with us about anything. I want to approach her but want to do it tactfully so I don't put a guilt trip on her.
Thanks for any help I receive from the Circle of Moms. You have
been helpful in the past.