Catherine - posted on 03/03/2011 ( 19 moms have responded )
My daughter is 2 1/2 years old and we adopted her from an agency and no knowledge of the birth parents. During the process visitation was not discussed; however now the birth mother is requesting a visit. I have many concerns but when it comes down to it since any visit is done with the agency I don't mind having a visit but my husband is against it till she gets older and wants to decide on her own if she wants to. We are caucasian and our daughter is bi-racial so as she gets older its not a question of explaining or telling her she's adopted because we do have a plan. There are pro's and con's to having the visit now or later so I'm looking for any suggestions or feelings other's may have. We do not have any medical background on her so I would atleast like to get some information on that for her future.