Libby - posted on 07/09/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )
Well, I got a very weird call today. My nephew who is 21 and his off again, on again girlfriend are due to have a baby next month. They just found out they are having a boy. They however are not anywhere near mature enough to raise a child. And my nephew asked me to adopt his baby. His girl friend who is a little younger than him has some mental and maturity issues. He also is not mature for his age and realizes he can't raise a child on his own, or even with her help. I feel bad because he wants to keep the baby in the family, but I am due to have my next child in October. I have two living children and I don't work. My husband has two jobs and has to go to school this year to get certified to be a fireman. And I just don't think we could raise a child. It would be like doubling the financial responsibility that we were expecting to take on in a few months. Plus, we are having a girl and I just got rid of all of my baby boy stuff. So, I would literally be starting over for two babies. One other huge concern would be that this child could have special needs since I know my nephew's girlfriend does have some mental issues. What they are exactly, I'm not sure. But I just don't think I could take the chance to have something more than what I could handle. I really have to think about my immediate family first, even though this unborn child is family. I hope I'm doing the right thing by saying no. Any feedback?