KATHIE - posted on 06/26/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
My daughter is 23 and lives with me at home. She doesn't leave the house except on occasions she may go to the store with me or a family function of some sort. She is very "normal" so people think that there is nothing wrong with her. I am recently realizing that she has learned to manipulate her diagnosis and makes me believe she can't do things that I believe she can do. She won't do chores at home. She does her own laundry and will occasionally help empty the dishwasher. She refuses to get a job and won't go to counseling or take meds. She doesn't drive because of anxiety and she is obsessed with TV and something called Fan Fiction. I have had many people tell me I need to practice tough love on her and I have resisted. I am at my wits end and know that something needs to be done for her sake so that she can have hope of a somewhat normal life. The problem is that if you met her for 5 minutes you would think she was completely normal. She is beautiful, well spoken and polite to everyone but those who live with her. She isn't very confrontational but just retreats when she doesn't want to interact. I have read all your posts but I don't see any concrete steps to take to begin the journey of healing. Any practical approaches would be welcome.