Darlene - posted on 10/05/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )
At my wits end with an adult son (25) who is an absolute slob, has his band in the basement so he practices 3 times a week, I could go on and on but I am so drained that I just can't get into all. When I try and address the situation, he blows up. For example, come home to a sink full of dishes, he washes his dishes as he needs them but refuses to empty the sink. His father and I have tried taking with him, and leaving him notes (to avoid blowups). He works a little food service job and is a struggling musician. He constantly tells us he is moving out as soon as he completes his cd, but it just drags on and on! I hated to do this but I gave him an ultimatum (by note) when I woke up and found that the sink was full of his dishes once again (after I told him yesterday to do his dishes). He can either be a responsible member of the household or he has until Jan 1 to find another place to live. I know I'm doing the right thing, but why does it feel so bad?