adult son and PDD-nos : oppositional behavior

Laurie - posted on 08/11/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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HI,
My younger son is 29 and was diagnosed with mild ID and PDD-NOS. He thinks everyone who is friendly is a friend and has found "true love" on the internet with a married woman almost twice his age. He is in a court appointed day program but skipped out today. He doesn't have a job and can't look while in this program. The woman he has met has applied for credit cards in his name and we can't do anything!
We have applied for DMH and DDS help but it takes a couple months to get an answer.
I just need to know if anyone is living thru such a hellish situation. I'm feeling quite stressed and in need of someone to talk to. Thanks for listening to my whining!

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Sarah - posted on 08/12/2015

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Then you really have done what you can do, sadly he needs to get an understanding of how badly this could end for him.

Sarah - posted on 08/12/2015

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Is he is own legal guardian? Did he give her permission to open those accounts? Call the credit card company and explain the situation, have them put a hold on the account until an investigation is complete. if you are his guardian, you can call the police, close the account. Why is he in a court appointed day program?
Also you can call the credit reporting agencies and have his name flagged for possible identity theft or abuse.

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Laurie - posted on 08/12/2015

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Hi Sarah,
Yes, he is his own guardian. And, no, we don't want the responsibility any more. ( We were his conservators a few years ago in another state. At this point he would dispute our taking over.)
Yes, I've taken care of contacting credit bureaus and the companies. However, as an adult who has probably given verbal approval, there is little we can do. At least we won't be responsible for the debts.

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