ADULT STEP CHILDREN

Louise - posted on 12/29/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hi
Never posted anything on a forum before, but here goes,
I have been with my partner for 2.5 yrs, and I still have not met his " children " 22yr son, 20yr old son and 17 yr old daughter, I know they blame for their parents breakup, but the is more to their break up then the " children " will ever know.
I think what really makes me sad is I give my partner money so he can take them out, and give them birthday money..etc which they are not aware of.
just would like some advice, thanks for reading .

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Louise - posted on 12/29/2013

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Thanks Jodie, he is very soft to the point of being spineless, ( another reason his wife had no respect for him ) he asked them over here for today, but the middle child was not happy about it, the other two ( eldest son and daughter were up for it).so we shall see.
As for the money situation, I knew he had debt, but like they say you don't know someone until you live with them, it is a worry yes, I do think sometimes weather he is with me because the easier life he has got....

Jodi - posted on 12/29/2013

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Well, it's still a form of emotional cheating in some people's eyes, so I can see why the kids might feel this way about you. I'm not saying that the way they treat you is right, but I can understand why they might.

I think I'd be quite concerned about him not being good with money, though. You shouldn't have to be supporting him and his lifestyle.

With regard tot the children, I don't think it is fair that you haven't even met them. What measures has your partner taken to try and remedy this?

Louise - posted on 12/29/2013

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Yes I was the other women, even though nothing actually happened between us, my partner was not able to talk to his wife about anything so would talk to me via emails, and no he is not good with money, so I make sure he is able to take them out. They are divorced and his wife has got the house etc, which I do not have a problem with, rightly so. The boys are at uni, and doing really well.

Jodi - posted on 12/29/2013

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Why do you have to give your partner money? Does he not earn any himself to be able to do these things with his children?

Also, is there a reason they blame you for the break up? Despite there being more to the break up than the kids will understand, were you in the picture when it was all happening? Were you the other woman at the time?

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