Elaine - posted on 09/02/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
Hi, My husband and I have been invited to my husbands brother in laws 60th birthday party. My brother in law then announced that he would like my eldest step daughter and partner to attend so that they could perform (singing/guitar playing). He then sent an ambiguous email asking me to confirm numbers but also mentioning he wanted to keep costs down. I appreciate that as a blended family we are rather large (8 in total our childrens ages are 28,23,21,20,19 and 13) and consists of 2 blood nieces to this particular brother in law and 4 step nieces/nephews. I replied saying that as he wanted to keep costs down, I would be happy for just me and my husband to attend and that as the professional services of my step daughter were required, this was acceptable too. He then sent a text message asking me to ask my husband to ring him. Long story short he basically feels he should invite my other stepdaughter (his biological niece) but not my children! We truly do live as one family and all the children consider themselves to be siblings. I am truly offended by his slyness in going behind my back when I had already explained what was considered fair to the whole family. I now dont want to go to the party as I am so angry. Am I blowing things out of proportion!!??