Sara - posted on 12/01/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
My 7 year old daughter sprained her ankle and we went to the ER last week where the dr. told my daughter to use crutches. She used crutches at school over the week. A few days ago a teacher (not my daughter's teacher, but one who teaches the same grade and is very friendly with my daughter's teacher) went up to my daughter and told her to stop letting other girls try using her crutches (her friends were excited and wanted to try using my daughter's crutches and she let them). The teacher then started taunting my daughter saying you are faking, aren't you faking, and then threatened that if she allows anyone else to try her crutches she will take them away from her. The day before I had my daughter's parent teacher conference and the first thing her teacher started talking about was asking me questions repeatedly about why my daughter does not have a cast on or a bandage, and then asked how long she needs crutches, and on and on I felt like I was being interrogated. And it did not feel like she CARED about my daughter, but there was an undertone of disbelief about her injury.
Well I happen to be a medical professional, and sprains do not necessarily have casts on them, and in my daughter's case she did not need one. However, her foot really hurts and she was told to keep the pressure off by using crutches. My daughter is also not a faker at all, and she usually will downplay things, including injuries.
I am really pissed off. Her teacher has said hurtful things to my daughter in the past like telling her when 2 boys were repeatedly teasing her, instead of reprimanding the boys, the teacher told my daughter 'everyone bothers you'. When I approached the teacher she said she would never say that to a student, but I trust my daughter 100%.
It is very surprising because my daughter is quite shy in school, and also quite docile with authoritative figures like teachers. She has always been well liked by teachers and I have never had an issue ever until this year. My daughter has never complained about a teacher or fellow student or anyone really until this year.
I did end up speaking to the principal about the teacher who told my daughter she was faking and threatened to take her crutches away from her. I totally would not mind if a teacher told her not to allow others to use her crutches but not in that manner. When I brought it up, I also mentioned some of the other things over the past year that have bothered me. I was not satisfied with the encounter with the principal who kept insisting that these 2 teacher are very nice people.
My daughter's teacher is also young and inexperienced, they do not get homework half the time they are supposed to, and I get worksheets home often that have not been corrected. And that bothers me, but I thing what bothers me even more is that I feel she is mean but in a way that is a bit passive aggressive at times, so the principal would not see it.
Any advice? I am worried that this teacher will be mad I complained and take it out on my daughter. I told the principal that, and she assured me that would not happen but I am still worried. I also worry that this teacher will gossip about our family and this will prejudice other teachers for future years.
Am I overthinking and worrying too much? Any advice would be totally appreciated.