ADVICE ADIVICE I AM BABY MAMA #2. HE HAS #1 AND #3. NOW WE ARE BACK TOGETHER

Jane - posted on 10/15/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I Have a boyfriend who has a child before me and after me. We broke up 4 years ago he got with a girl and had a baby with her. He has two little girls and I have his son. Well we have recentley gotten back together. Well trying to work things out. I love him I always have loved him I know he loves me. We have been seeing eachother since we were 16. We are 25 now. Its just so hard. Because the whole time he was with his Babys Mother #3 he always saw me we never stopped seeing eachother. Even with his first BM when we were kids he cheated with her for me. And you know what they say once a cheater always a cheater. Therefore of course im scared he will do that to me. He is staying with me again. And he has just went to child support for his #3. And the bm#3 well she is crazy she has once keyed my car this was back in the day when we had tried to make it work. She will text me for sure if he text her I love you or something. Cause she has before in the past. Well my whole point is. I just need advice like im going crazy. Do I stay and make it work. I feel im driving myself crazy with all my insecurities about what if he cheats or what if he text his bm.I Hate feeling this way but I cant help it, will it go away ahhh Also he has a lock on his phone says he has nothing to hide but I feel if he didn't have anything to hide why does he have a lock ahhh I just need advice. What has kept me is he is being ways he has never before been with me so I feel maybe he really is going to change for me. :/ Or is that my wishfull thinking. Also ahh I feel am I ready to a stepmom to two other children. One is 6 the other is 2. And im scared to have them go over and have us not workout and confuse well the 6yr old....... Im just so confused.

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Sarah - posted on 10/15/2014

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My advise is stay far far away from him. Unless you want this in and out drama for the rest of your life with more and more kids that will be added into this equation. Right now you are just the next fling until he gets bored and finds the next girl to move onto. My advise is to focus on your life and your child's life and stay out of the drama with him.

Dove - posted on 10/15/2014

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He has three kids with three different women and you even have to ask this question? These poor kids fathered by this creep.... :( They will be the ones to suffer no matter what else happens. Just wait to see who the mother of baby #4 is cuz the chances of him changing are extremely small...

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Gena - posted on 10/18/2014

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I wouldnt be able to deal with a guy the way you described him. My advice would be,dont get your hopes to high that he will stay true with you forever. It could be that i am wrong,but he sounds like a guy that likes to play around. I hope you wont get hurt.

Sarah - posted on 10/15/2014

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You love the idea of who you have created that he is in your mind. You don't love the person he actually is. Here is what your life has been and will continue to be unless YOU change. You like the idea of the man that you fantasize he is. This is a man that actually does all the things this guy is telling you. If you stop giving it up to this guy and he is out the door faster then you can blink, but hey he says he loves you......or is that just so he can get in your pants? You require nothing of him....you are his freebee. If he loves you then require him to treat you like that. No man worth being with would have me on the side while with another girl. I require respect. That is not respect or love that is him being selfish and you being the next freebee he can get.

Jane - posted on 10/15/2014

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Thank you ladies :) That is what every one says. But ahh you cant help who you love.

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