Cayla - posted on 09/22/2015 ( 22 moms have responded )
I need as many people to give advice as possible. I have a son who is 3. He was born addicted to heroin and meth. Then he was traumatized until the age of 1 1/2. He was used for child pornography and left to die in a storage unit and was found tied up in a sheet. First off I just want to say I love this little boy to death! He is extremely smart, sweet and loving (when he wants to be) and has the most awesome personality.
However, he has anger issues. When told no and he gets put in the corner he will mutilate himself scratch his own face punch kick scream etc. He squeezes his hands and fingers as if he has so much emotion going on inside of him he doesn't know how to handle it or control it. My wife and I have another baby we adopted, she is 1. He attacks her often. And its usually for no reason. He does not understand boundaries. I can tell there is a disconnect and it seems like he cannot grasp the concept of most things like when I explain to him what he did wrong and why it is wrong. I don't think he has a conscience or emotional feelings for that matter. He lies, manipulates, and tries to find out what you don't like about im and keep doing it to upset you. He also looks for things you like so he can destroy them (cell phones, makeup, my sons drawings, babies toys etc) He also collects "tools", nails/screws, broken mechanical pencils and hides the shards in small containers. He will randomly attack my older kids' friends that come over. He just hit my sons friend in the head with a metal bat last week and the kids is supposed to go in the heart surgery soon. I'm glad he didn't kill him, but im worried because if he was older and stronger he would have done just that. My oldest son who is 14 is scared to go to college because he thinks the baby will try and kill us, And the most emotion I see from my youngest son is anger and when he is happy is when I explain to him how he hurt someone, almost as if it brings him joy to see other people in pain. My wife and I have had to stop him a couple of times from trying inappropriate things with his baby sister while we are changing her diaper. At night we have to lock our baby up and strap down bungee cords real tight and fasten them onto the baby gate we drilled into the door frame. We do not leave him alone with her for both of their safety. She was born with the same addiction but thankfully she did not endure trauma, she was taken at birth. At first my wife and I thought we just had a little cereal killer on our hands because he snuck concentrated powder draino from the trash can and 2 weeks later poured some on everyone's toothbrush (including the babies) except his own. Then places the drano back in the cabinet but I think he forgot we threw it away. I was brushing my teeth in the shower and my mouth started to burn, thank God I was the only one who ingested it and not one of my other 3 kids. (2 older biological children and the baby). Or my wife. Now I have heard of people have temper tantrum issues or kids being destructive, but it seems calculated. I think that drugs completely destroyed his brains ability to comprehend emotion. He is only 3 years old, I know time is running out to teach him right from wrong before he gets stuck in his ways. The only perception he has of right and wrong is "If I do this bad thing, will I get caught or not?" If ANYBODY is familiar with these issues and knows the name of what is going on with him PLEASE give me any and all information you have. I just want to protect my family and help this little boy become a good person. He deserves a better shot at life.