Edgard - posted on 01/06/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
First of all, I want to start by apologizing, I am not a mother, I am a father. I am 23 years old, I got mixed up in a 2 year relationship which ended last July (2013). The past month (December) my ex girlfriend and I met at a party, we started catching up, having some drinks and we were having a good time. One thing lead to the other and we had sex. We used a condom but it ripped and neither of us noticed it. The next day she drank the day after pill hoping it would prevent the unwanted pregnancy. She is 22 and still a year from finishing college (she is studying to be a dentist). I am 23 and graduated last year, I have a stable job. I just found out,3 days ago (January 3, 2014) that she is indeed pregnant. I've had trouble coping with the idea that I am going to be a father, specially with her. After the incident happened, and she took the pill, we talked about it and both concluded that it was a mistake, and that it shouldnt happen again. I kept seeing her out with her friends and we chatted from time to time but we each respected the boundaries. Now that I know she is pregnant with my child i am planning to take responsibility for it. I do not intend to marry her, I know it wont work because we have had many differences and problems in the past. Gladly, we are both on the same page here because she also believes that a pregnancy is not a reason to get married. I plan on supporting her financially as well as emotionally from here on. However, I still have not told my parents, neither has she. Im terrified of it, my parents are very old fashioned and they will be destroyed when I tell them. It worries me so much how they will react. What is the best way to approach and tell them? I know this is for women, but you being women I thought maybe could help me in finding a way to tell my mother and not do as much damage as I think this will cause.