Advice needed: Daughter crying when dropping her off

Chel - posted on 03/25/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hi,
I'm in serious need of advice, recommendations or tips. I'll take any help I can get right now. My daughter recently turned 5. She'll start kindergarten in Sept. I enrolled her recently in pre-K (twice a week) mainly so she can socialize and to get accostum to a school environment. The first week of school, she did amazing. She didn't cry at all. She told me she loved it. The 2nd week though, the moment we enter her classroom, she threw a tantrum and cried bloody murder when I dropped her off. It's been like that ever since (going on my 4th week now). Even the teachers were surprised with the sudden change in attitude. She denies any teacher or students treating her bad. I've tried talking to her, reassuring her that everything is ok and that I'll pick her up. I've tried just giving her a kiss and telling her I'll see her later and walked away while she's crying (breaks my heart each time). Even on the days that she doesn't have school she'll tell me how much she doesn't want to go. I just don't know what else to do.

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Chel - posted on 03/26/2015

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Thanks for the advice. I'll keep at it, it's just so heartbreaking to see her cry like that. When we talk about it, she said she's just 'scared of school' even though when I pick her up she's happy. She's made friends and the teachers say she's okay after awhile. I've popped in once during the day and watched her on their monitors from the office and she seems like she's having fun.
Also, is it normal for her to be anxious about school even on the days she not there? It's almost like she starts counting down the days until she goes back to school.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/26/2015

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This is actually really normal for many children. Just knowing that can help, but it does not ease your heartache or your childs distress. Most children with cry and throw a tantrum while being dropped off, but within a few minutes of the parent leaving, they are fine. The teachers usually address it accordingly and distract the child.

I would keep doing what you have been doing, but talk to the teachers and see how they are handling it when you leave. It is very important for your child to be in school, especially since she will be in kinder next year.

Raye - posted on 03/26/2015

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Keep trying to talk to her to find out why she doesn't want to go. But she will have to get used to being away from you and in school. Is she only crying when you drop her off? How does she act during class? If she's fine during class, then I would say just keep doing what you're doing. Don't make a big deal of dropping off, just say love you have a good day, and leave.

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