Advice on becoming a young grandmother(I'm 41)
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Therese - posted on 01/24/2014
I've just become a Grandmother myself at 39 yrs old. I had my daughter at 16. I wen't into the labour ward and was with her all the way. I had to keep telling myself that this wasn't my baby but my daughters! I learned that as it's nice to help etc just don't keep telling them what to do or don't tell them that their doing it wrong etc... Because this will get on their nerves. Just be there for them both. Yes it can be a shock and it feels a bit different to having your own sons and daughters. Nobody believes me that I'm a Grandmother they think it's my baby but that doesn't bother me now as I've become used to it. Nobody would believe my daughter is mine they think she's my sister even the Doctors, Midwifes and just people in general. I suppose I should be happy at tat lol. Children are a blessing and to be a Grandmother Is really nice:)) It will probally take a bit of getting used to at first but you'll get there! Even when my daughter says to the baby "Go to Nana" she even laughs herself saying it feels so mad lol! I wish you all the very best and if you ever need to talk feel free to e-mail me/or add me on here!:))
Ev - posted on 01/22/2014
Its not easy to find out that you are going to be one that soon. But you need to step back and take a breath and remember, this is his life and he has to deal with it. Be supportive of him, love him, and remind him of that. Support the girl who is having the child. Be open about this. Guide them when they ask for advice. Let them figure things out on their own. Love the new baby coming. Get excited about it. I know that all that will take time but in time you will find that this is a blessing. My daughter was 21 when she found out she was expecting and in college and not married to the father though they had planned on getting married after she had finished school. Sometimes things happen. I was supportive but also my system took a shock and I got anxious. But in the end I had to let her do what she needed to. She was an adult anyway. And a side note: I was 21 when I had her. I had been waiting with her father to be able to get married because of work related issues. I got pregnant before we married but I could not judge my daughter for the same actions. Today, that darling she gave birth to is nearly 2 years old and is about to have a sibling too. She married dad and they are doing well.
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