advice on breakups

Jessica - posted on 12/09/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I need some advice and I have no one to talk to that really understands , me and my daughters father have been apart for about 3 months now and I'm trying to figure out how do I accept the fact that my family isn't going to work I see everyone else with their family's and it's just breaking my heart and I could never picture my self bringing another man being around my daughter I just need some advice

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Wanda - posted on 12/09/2014

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Don't go back to him. That would teach ur beautiful innocent child to accept that from her spouse. Stay strong. Join mommy and me groups. There are other moms that will understand and help. Just don't give up by getting back with him. These days will pass. Stay strong because a strong mom is the best kind! :).
And just because your first try at a loving family didn't work, doesn't mean your next one won't. Your future is straight ahead..don't look backwards!

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Jessica - posted on 12/09/2014

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my daughter is only 10 months old & I know it's hard like I don't wanna be with him because he's a cheater but at the same time i want my family idk it's hard I just have no one to talk to or vent so I guess that makes it worse I just never picture this life for my daughter so it hurts even more but at the same time I think like I can't stay with someone if I'm not happy just for my family , my daughters father cheated many times that's why I left and he says he wants his family back but I just can't trust him

Wanda - posted on 12/09/2014

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I understand. I've been there. The toughest part of separating is knowing we broke up our kids family. Because we create a family together..the kids came in to this world with that comfort and security right?
How old are your children?
Kids are pretty understanding when u can give them love and a soft place to fall. And as long as you never disrespect your ex. To me that is the worst, most humiliating thing for a child. They must learn that this relationship did not work out but that u both did ur best. If u show them that this is a decision u both made together they will do ok.
Don't worry about bringing another man around. That takes time. And it is not time yet. Wait till everyone is healed. And you will be ok :)

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