Nicole - posted on 11/22/2014 ( 7 moms have responded )
My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for a year. I knew the moment I met him that he was the one I want to marry. He has a four year old daughter whom I love with ALL of my heart. I hope that someday he and I will be married and I can be a mother to her. At the very beginning of our relationship, he and the mother were going through custody issues. The mother was mentally unstable and incapable of taking care of the daughter. She has two other children. One lives with her and the other lives with his father. Anyway, the mother dropped her off one day and stated in front of everyone that she hated her daughter and never wanted to see her ugly face again. She dropped her off and left. She relinquished all rights of custody and visitation in front of a judge at court. She is required to pass a psychological evaluation if she wishes to see her daughter again. For months Vi would cry and cry about her mother... it was heartbreaking. Now almost a year later shes doing wonderful. Shes in school, shes happy, healthy and we really have her in a stable and loving environment. Yesterday in the mail, we received a letter from the courts stating that she wants full custody. The court date is a week away. I am extremely sad and stressed about this. I know that she needs her mother and if she is indeed capable of caring for Vi, i would be all for it. But I get a bad feeling. How could a mother ever IN HER RIGHT MIND say what she said to her beautiful 4 year old daughters face, abandon her for a year and then expect to come back into her life like nothing happened? I am having a really hard time coping with this and i would be so appreciative of some advice. Is there anyone on here that has gone through something similar? I am afraid that the courts will favor her because she is the mother.... even though her father has been taking care of her full time for the past year with no issues. Help!