Advice on discipline for 6 years old.

Tasheka - posted on 08/20/2012 ( 11 moms have responded )

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Please help me! I would love your advices on discipline for my 6 years old daughter who will be 7 January. what form of discipline can I apply at this age, as I'm afraid taking her favorite things has grown old.

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Michelle - posted on 08/21/2012

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Maybe sit down with her and make up a list of "house rules" together. Write down how you should treat each other etc and both sign it. Get her to help with the rules so she feels she is being heard as well.

You can also write up consequences list. These would be a list of things that she will lose or miss out on if the rules aren't stuck to. This could be anything from cutting out TV/computer time to going to bed 30 mins earlier or doing some extra chores. If she helps with these it may give her more of a sense of responsibility and accountablity for her actions.

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Amy - posted on 08/22/2012

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I sit my children down and I explain to them what they've done or said and why it was wrong, hurtful, disrespectful, mean, whatever the case my be. We discuss a better way they could have spoke or acted. I ask them how next time could they make a better fission. Then I have them repeat everything back to me so I know they understand stand. Then we talk about Wat their punishment should b. We talk till we agree on somethin loseing TV or certain toys game choice turn. Different things. I really to have punishment match the crime. If the behavior continues after we talked about it I explain to them we tried their way now we had to try spanking. Useally don't go that far with my son but my daughter was more stubborn. I always explain to both that they are choosing to miss behave so they are choose the punishment. So they are more aware of what they are doing. Sometimes when I can see bad behavior starting I ask them if they are making a wise choice and what might be a better one. My son usallly will stop and laugh and oh yea I forgot thanks mommy I love you.

Tasheka - posted on 08/21/2012

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Thank you all so much for replying to my post I have obtain something from what each and everyone of you had to say and I feel so much better and positive about the situation thanks a lot mommies

Janice - posted on 08/21/2012

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Get the book '1-2-3 Magic'. Find it cheap at half price books on line. It is simple to follow and makes sense. I am a grandmother and you do not want your child to go another day without proper discipline for her sake and yours. Another great book is 'Have a New Kid by Friday'. Similar advise but more up to date (yet probably costs more although it might be at a thrifty book store in your town or at your library).

Jean Elizabeth - posted on 08/21/2012

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We have never "disciplined" our boys (ages 12, 9, and 4 months). We decided that since we are trying to help them grow up to be curious, intelligent, and thoughtful taking their toys, yelling at them, or doing anything else would just tell them that we have power and they do not. Instead, we tell them how what they do makes us feel, both positive feelings and negative ones. We never treat them in a way which we wouldn't treat each other. Instead of getting into power struggles over "respect" for example, we tell them that treating us in less than loving ways makes us feel sad. We don't say it in a "so you shouldn't make us feel like that sort of way." We say it matter-of- factly. Instead of having boys who are out of control, we have boys who are kind, thoughtful, and respectful of us, each other, and people outside the family. Further, when they see people treated badly, they speak right up. :)

Jenifer - posted on 08/21/2012

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My son just turned 7 and we faced many of those challenges. House rules have been a great tool, as well as rewards for good behavior. Instead of punishing for bad behavior, sassing, backtalk, we set up a reward system for occurances when these things don't happen. For example, my son HATES going to the Grocery Store, and this results in whining, sassing, nagging, and such. Now, he has a shopping backpack with snacks, books, video games, and such that we take to make the trip less horrible for him. If we get through the store without incident, he earns 15 minutes of tv control time (where HE chooses the program and everyone must watch). This may not work for everyone, but my son gets a kick out of forcing his father to watch SpongeBob or some other silly thing! But there are planty of other things for rewards like board games, books, coloring or painting time, you name it! Good luck!

Michelle - posted on 08/21/2012

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Good luck. I have had to try inventive ways to get my older kids to listen. We seem to have found a happy medium at the moment but I know things will change soon. My oldest will be a teenager in a couple of years so it should be interesting.

Tasheka - posted on 08/21/2012

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I will try that and see how it works out for both of us. Thank you Michelle I appreciate the advice xxx

Tasheka - posted on 08/21/2012

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Thank you for replying Michelle, she's talking back,defiance and whining. From what I've understand children of this age are experiencing increased independence and flexing new found skills and abilities but at the same time are still young children who are capable of becoming easily frustrated and upset by setbacks and disappointments and these back-and-forth steps to being a big kid can lead to behavior problems such as what I've mentioned she's doing before.

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