Advice on living with an alcoholic

Andrea - posted on 01/02/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and have a 19 month old daughter together. We constantly fight. Our biggest problem is the fact that he is an alcoholic. When we first started dating that's all we did together. We both worked in bars and that's all we knew how to do. Then I got pregnant and my life changed over night. I stopped everything the minute I got a positive test while he continued to go out drinking and stay out all night. He takes MY car to do whatever he wants since he doesn't have a car (or license for that matter thanks to 2 DUI's). I'll let him take the car to work and then he always calls after work and says he's going to do something. Sad thing is I usually don't argue with him just because it's more peaceful around the house if he isn't around. He has toned down the drinking since my daughter has been born but he still has to drink...every night. Now instead of a 12 pack and a pint of whiskey a night its just a 12 pack except for when i catch him hiding liquor around the house. He watches our daughter by himself 1 night a week. I am constantly worried while I am gone about how much he is drinking while he is "responsible" for her. Then when he drinks too much be starts to pick at me about every little thing. The other night he started yelling at me about where I put his beer cans in the basement because he didn't see them and tripped over them (keep in mind that I am the one that cleans up his beer cans ever morning). Anything to start a fight with me and he doesn't care if our daughter is around. I'll try to ignore him and he will literally follow me around the house yelling until I snap. I could go on and on. I'm just so lost. I never pictured my life like this. I grew up in a loving home and I want the same for my daughter. The thought of splitting up time with her terrifies me. At least by staying I know I'm coming home at night. I can't imagine sending her away with him for a weekend or even a night. I've tried leaving before and he always makes me feel like I'm in the wrong. Ive explained to him that I'm not judging him and that i just want out family to be happy and that i dont see that happening as long as his drinking continues the way it is. He really is a good dad, when he chooses to be. He likes to come in, play with her 5 minutes and then after that it's on to drinking and chain smoking. I want to eventually get married and have more children but I really can't picture doing these things with him. I'm so lost. Where do I begin?


Esmeralda - posted on 01/02/2014




I live with my boyfreind i been togathet for a year . . My son it 7 n go 8 year old . In march my son don'tnow he poop in his underwear . .????????

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