Advice on moving closer to family

Krystina - posted on 04/15/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hi! I need some opinions on if I should move be closer to family or not.
I'm originally from Seattle and moved down to Atlanta with my husband 3 yrs ago, before we had children. Now we have two small children and I want to move back to Seattle because I have more family support ( my family) . He has family in Atlanta but they aren't that involved with the kids and I never get a break, I'm a stay at home mom.
My husband wants to stay in Atlanta but doesn't mind moving except he is hesitant because my mother and him don't really get along. They are both pretty negative about each other. That's the main reason he doesn't want to move, but I would like some more help with the kids and would love my kids to be around my family more. I don't have much of a social life and my husband NEVER wants to do anything or go anywhere. And I miss that part of life in Seattle... Should I stay here for my husband? Or move? Also will the conflict with my mom possibly ruin my own family that I have made ?

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Krystina - posted on 04/15/2016

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Thank you. They got into a big argument a few years ago. I'm not exactly sure what the root of the problem is . There has been times I think that the problem is squashed. But now recently they've both make bad comments about each other . And I could only imagine how awful it could be if they were closer together ........ My husband is a huge home body and doesn't like to get out much. And he works until 7 at night some days, and he will constantly complain about watching the kids if I left them home.

Raye - posted on 04/15/2016

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You need to weigh the pros and cons of moving and decide which aspects are the most important for you, your husband, and your kids. Since your kids aren't in school or old enough to have an established group of friends, that isn't as big of a consideration as it would be if they were older. Your husband and your mom not getting along could be the biggest issue with the move. Why don't they get along? Who do you think is "right" and why? Would both of them curb their behavior to keep peace and make things less stressful for you? If you could get some time out of the house (an occasional break from your 24 hours a day "job" of motherhood), would you stay in Atlanta? Do you NEED your husband to accompany you when you get out, or could he watch the kids? Could you take a fun class together (or alone) to socialize and not be "mommy" for a while? What are your husband's objections to going out?

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