Advice on what to tell daughter?

Kasey - posted on 01/16/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




I have been dating a guy for 3 years, and he has a five year old daughter, she has lived with him her whole life. The mother was around till she was 2 then didn't have any contact till she was 3. Now she went to jail for a couple months 9 months ago and has been out for 7 months, and has not once tried to contact to see her daughter. Even before she went to jail she wasn't around much she would maybe watch her once a week while we were working, but never asked to see her more then that. Now my this little girl that I consider my own has been asking about her mom. How do we tell her that her mom clearly doesn't want anything to do with her? but not in those words?


Dove - posted on 01/16/2013




You don't know why her mom isn't around.

It's simple and, since you aren't a mind reader, it's the truth. I'm sure you could speculate a bunch of reasons which could very well be the truth, but... you don't REALLY know. I 'think' that's the answer I would try and go with right now.... and follow it up with letting her know that her father will always be there for her (good conversation for HIM to have with her too).

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