Advice Please

Julie - posted on 09/04/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




Any advice for a mom who's 5 year old has an attitude, argues and rolls her eyes at me "because daddy does it all the time." And unfortunately it is true. I have just gotten so used to it over the years (his tone of voice and condesending mannerisms) that I actually thought it was getting better. For our marriage I have tried it all: counseling, writing down how I feel, sending emails to prevent confrontations on touchy subjects, and so much more. It just feels like my breaking point when my 5 year old see's this and thinks it's "cool" to act like dad. I am not sure how to handle this one, so if you have advice PLEASE let me hear it :(


Jana - posted on 09/04/2012




I had similar things happen with my daughter, and everyone said it was bc I didn't spank her when she needed it but I soon realized that like in your case she did what daddy does....and in noticing that I realized that she was adopting his attitude to everything and this is why I told her not to do what we do but liisten to what we say. It took time but I started showing her how she acted when she would talk to me I would sass and roll my eyes and she complained about how it hurt her feelings and I told her I felt the same way and that it wasn't acceptable to treat people that way. I try and remind her and my family that what one says may not be important or really anything to you but to the person who's saying it or speaking it could and probably means something and to care about how you make others feel. Good luck hun but hubby needs to know that he's setting the example and its not the best one nor the one he wants to have rub off bc it will get done to him and he most likely won't like it

Katherine - posted on 09/04/2012



5193 daughter started getting sassy like that at 5 too. So although your husbands influence may have something to do with it, I hate to tell's the age too. Her dad ALSO had those mannerisms. So I guess it was a bit of both. I always got the, "Daddy does it!" Start her on a rewards chart maybe and see if that doesn't quash some of the behavior.


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