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Judie - posted on 05/31/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Okay so I have an issue with my future mother in law. First of all she came to the hospital drunk when I gave birth to my son, and since then I've had a variety of issues with her. She has taken food from my house without permission to take home, she's in an abusive relationship which makes her unstable, and she expects me to take care of her other son (not my boyfriend) who is 3 months older than I am. I have let him stay for the past year to prevent him being on the street .but it is having an effect on my relationship with my boyfriend. She also expects me to let her babysit when she has mental health issues, something that my boyfriend knows I am against. It has gotten so bad that she tries to be nice to me out of fear that I will take our child to England (I am british). I would much rather she wasn't around at all ..... The three kids she raised all have problems, my boyfriend included and I do not want her influence around my son .... She smokes pot. It has gotten to the point where me and my boyfriend are arguing about his brother leaving, or how I don't like his mother. I now leave my own house if she's coming over because I cannot tolerate her and her desperate attempt to be number 1 grandma .... She ruined my sons birthday by bringing her boyfriend who was specifically told he was not invited, and her dog, which made my family uncomfortable to the point they had to leave and not see their great grandchild on his birthday. She seriously thinks it's all about her.... She took my son when he was 3 months old out of my arms while I was feeding him, which I almost lost my calm. And I just don't know what to do..... Every time I talk to my boyfriend he guilt trips me by saying she has no one else, do I want him to never talk to his mother again..... The whole situation stresses me out ... Any advice

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Emily - posted on 05/31/2015

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hi the only thing i can suggest and i no its harder said then done but tell him its either you and your son that he picks or his mother and leave the choice to him

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Judie - posted on 06/01/2015

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I'm trying not to do that, as I know there are parts of my family he doesn't like being around ..... I just don't know if I should say something to her directly next time she's here... I'm not afraid to be blunt but I don't want to start trouble

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