Silvia - posted on 07/20/2011 ( 22 moms have responded )
My daughter is 13 and she get friends over at Friday Night or Saturday afternoon, and they stay over for sleep most of the time. They eat with us, dinner, or what ever i cooked and they sit at the dinner table with us. Somethimes i want to go out with my kids or my husband and we cant go or we have to bring my daughter friend togheter. Than i have to pay for my daughter friends who never brings money and its making me crazy. Last Saturday we went to a Carnaval with my kids and there was a friend of my daughter over my house since friday night, I paid food, and unlimited rides for her. I called her father and asked him to come to the carnival to pick up his daughter. He said he could not come because he had a dog to take care. He didnt say thank to me for paying for his daughter or taking her over for 2 days. At 11 at night, i had to drive her to her house because i didnt want her in my house one more night. At the end her father was mad with me because i didnt want to drive his daughter to his house. Im getting sick, so stressed that i cant hold it anymore. I have to kids to take care, nobody never paid me nothing, i work hard, do i have to pay for my daughters friends too? What to do? Im tired of to pay for someone elses kids . What to do? What is the rule? I dont let my kids to stay over in their friends house, because one of her friends mother is always drunk and the other girl, her parents are divorced. Im trying to be a good mother but im exausted. I just dont understand what is wrong with this people. how can i fix it? How can i say to my daughter friends that they have to bring money for their ice cream or dinner or carnaval for exemplo? If we go to the beach and a friend (both friends are 13) come with us, do i have to pay for them? They also come to ours beach club and them my daughters buy ice cream, and i have to pay for their friends ice cream too. Im just feeling that its not right. After all what i do, their parents never offer money or ask me anything about it and dont sai thank to me. Please what and how to say to them that its not ok for me?