Advise please! :)

Jessica - posted on 01/23/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I am 22 years old and a first time mommy to newborn Twins! ♥ a boy and a girl:) I am stuck at home every day with no vehicle and no job while my husband goes out to work, works out and comes home and sleeps what do I do to help myself while taking care of my precious angels?!

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Gena - posted on 01/24/2015

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Congratulations on the twins! you could go for a Little walk with the babies if you dont feel like being inside the whole day. I agree with Shawnn,take some time for yourself everyday and talk to your husband. Maybe he could get them ready for bed. My husband always had a playtime with our son and he got him ready for bed. Taking a bath,putting pj on etc. But i dont know if one Person can take a bath with two newborns. If they are both taking a nap you could also sleep for a while or just relax and watch tv. Good luck

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Gena - posted on 01/24/2015

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You can tell him that it would be good for him to bond with the babies. Dont "acuse" him of not helping..rather ask him nicely for some help. Tell him how you feel and that its hard work and you would be happy to get some help from him. Dont wonder if he replies with "my work is also hard" lol.Just explain to him that its good for the babies to bond with their dad,even if its changing diapers or feeding if you use formula. My husband was the formula maker..he would get bottles ready. At the beginning we took turns during the night. We still take turns with sleeping longer..so one day on the weekend he sleeps longer like now atm and one day i can sleep longer. He still does the bed time bath,puts on pj and he takes our son to go swim indoors once a week so i get Me time. Another funny thing i just realized yesterday is that when we go out he still puts our son in the carseat and i take him out. When he still had a stroller my hubby wouod load and unload it out of the car. Its small things like that wich help. You will see over time you will get into a routine.

Jessica - posted on 01/24/2015

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Thank you! Yes a walk would be great but I am a little afraid that it is too cold out for newborns. I do believe having a plan like that & him putting them down for me at night would really help! He works from 1pm to 7 pm & then works out afterwards. Once he is home he will only help if I ask. If and when I do have a talk with him and it does not work How do I get him to help without having to ask? Or is that something that all men do? Lol

Jessica - posted on 01/23/2015

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Thank you! Lol this is very helpful. I am hoping that he will listen. Ever since they arrived he's been finding things to do instead of helping. I pray this conversation works :) thanks again.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/23/2015

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Sit down with hubby and explain that you need his help with the babies!

Twins! Wow...Hang in there!

Make sure that you're taking at least 5 quiet minutes a day to yourself. Hubby can help with this, and probably wants to help, but maybe isn't sure what he can/should do. Don't make it an accusation to him, but more about the family dynamic, and how he can help you and bond with the babies.

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