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Michelle - posted on 05/29/2016

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It sounds like you have both swept this under the carpet for the last 12 years instead of dealing with it all back then.
You need to get into marriage/couples counseling and work through all the feelings that have been buried for far too long.
You made the choice to stay with a man who cheated on you and got another woman pregnant while married to you. The Mother had the right to have the child, your husband had NO right to tell her to have an abortion. He should have stood up to his obligations years ago and that's not just paying child support. His child has the right to know his/her real Father and your husband denied him/her that.
You need to decide how much you really love your husband, is ignoring that he had a child with another woman worth it? You are the one that stayed with a cheater, you live with the consequences for the rest of your life.

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Michelle - posted on 05/29/2016

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Just because you didn't get the answers you wanted, doesn't mean you should change your post.
Yes, your husband had an affair that resulted in a child 12 years ago and you stayed with him. That was your choice.

Dove - posted on 05/29/2016

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If you forgave him for cheating on you 12 years ago... you need to fully accept the child that came from that. It is not this child's fault that his father is a cheater. He has a right to know his father and since his father is married to you... it's a package deal.

Time to get some counseling and sort this all out.

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