Afraid my son will turn out just like his father

Jennifer - posted on 06/17/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )




My first two children are from my 1st marriage. My ex was a very bad person. He stole, did drugs, and a lot of other things that I don't care to share. One major thing that he did, was that he lied all the time. It was about stupid stuff half the time too, like when he tried to tell me that his one friend and whole family (friend's family) passed away from 'Katrina', because the whole city they lived in was wiped out. After some checking, his friend and family were just fine, and the city they lived in was far enough inland that it was fine too. His lieing was constant. Every day he would tell me something, and I'd talk to his mom or dad and they would start to tell me the same story, but then 4 or 5 things would always be different and none of it was for a reason other than to just see if I believed his lies. My oldest son is now 7. He's been into a major lieing phase lately. I know kids are going to lie to keep themselves out of trouble, but he's starting with the lieing for no reason now too. He had a sleep over at a friend's house last week and told his friend and family that his father was a soldier in Iraq and he himself was born in Afganistan, and that I was a soldier at one time too. In reality, My husband is a truck driver, I'm a stay at home mom, but was a nursing assistant until 3 years ago, and my son was born in Ohio, and he knows all of this. My son was 2 1/2 the last time he saw his bio father, and my husband has adopted him. We've always explained that lieing was bad, and punished if we caught him or any of our other children in a lie and have praised when they told the truth. Do they all go through a phase like this and then it's over (for the most part), or is my son really starting to follow the same path as my ex?


Tamara - posted on 06/17/2011




I think that with traits like this they are more learned and since he hasn't seen him in years I wouldn't worry about that at this point. I do think its a phase just continue what your doing and things will be ok.

If your still worried about him turning out like that focus on teaching him the right way of things and he will pick those up and hopefully focus on what he was taught,

Good Luck

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