after a miscarriage

Corryn - posted on 01/08/2010 ( 74 moms have responded )

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I had a miscarriage on the 28th of December. I was 5.5 weeks into my second pregnancy. My husband and I have talked and we want to try again straight away and we are currently not using any protection just letting it happen and going with the flow!

I have thought about it and I am unsure as to wether it will be safe or if my body is ready so soon after a miscarry! I get mixed advice saying yes go again and no wait a few cycles so I am unsure on what is safe!

BTW the timing feels right to me this time I am not thking twice about falling pregant again.

So what Iam asking if there is anyone whome has falling pregnat straight after a miscarry, how did it go and what do you reckonmend!?

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Alissa - posted on 01/11/2010

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You need to wait at least 3 months so your body can heal. (or have 3 regular periods) I had a miscarriage in Jan. 2008. Then only waited 2 months and got pregnant again. I lost that baby when I was 10 weeks pregnant. I was so heartbroken that I didn't know if I ever wanted to try again. After a lot of sadness we waited 6 months and then stopped using birth control and just waited to see what happened. I got pregnant right away and 9 months later had another beautiful baby boy. Try taking prenatal vitamins for a few months to prepare your body. Believe me one miscarriage is hard but when you have two in a row the pain is unbearable. I hope this helps you.

Esmeralda - posted on 01/10/2010

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Rule of thumb: it takes the same time to restore your body as it did being pregnant. In other words, if you miscarried after let's say 3 months, you should give your body a rest for 3 months and then start trying again. If you miscarried after 4 weeks, you should wait 4 weeks. etcetera... Hope this helps!

Jennifer - posted on 01/29/2010

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Hi, I too had a miscarriage and wanted so badly to try again. I got pregnant immediately 4 weeks later, despite what others advised me, just letting it happen naturally. My son was born healthy and I had no complications. It is very stressful after a miscarriage, however, because you always have that fear that something is going to happen again and always wonder what you could have done differently--after time it goes away, but will always be in the back of your mind. I am a mother of 5 children now, having yet another child recently. Do what your heart tells you, not anyone else.

User - posted on 01/11/2010

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Hi, firstly I am so sorry for your loss. If you feel ready to try again, then I think that you should if you have been given the ok by your doctor. I had 3 miscarriages last year. I had a D&C with the first, so we had to wait a cycle to ttc because it was medically safer. I fell pregnant again a few cycles later, but miscarried naturally at 8 weeks. I fell pregnant straight away with no period in between but miscarried that baby early at 4w5d. I then went on to fall pregnant straight away again with no period after the miscarriage and I am now nearly 19 weeks pregnant, with no complications! Good luck :)

Sneaky - posted on 01/09/2010

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I have alwalys felt that if your body is not ready again then it won't get pregnant.

A word of caution: my experience was that I miscarried my baby at 12 weeks and was desperate to get pregnant agin - three months later I was :o) So three months into that pregnancy I was a total mess because it was the due date of the baby I lost and six months later my baby girl was born six days before the first anniversary of my miscarriage. I was a complete wreck for weeks, suddenly having a new born and trying to deal with all this grief that hit me without warning - I was going out of my mind because I didn't feel bonded with my new baby (a lot of the time I was feeling guilty for missing the baby I lost, because time-wise it meant that if he had been born his younger sister would not exist). I almost drove myself mad thinking too much!

Am I suggesting that you shouldn't get pregnant again straight away? NO. That is your choice and you will make the right choice for you. My caution is only to suggest that you get all the support you need with grief and any other feelings you have now and all the way through your next pregancy. You do not have to do it alone :o)

Good luck!

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Boni - posted on 10/28/2011

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the docs say after 2 norma; periods but also when you feel ready physcally and emotionally after my 1st m.c i went again straight away but after my seccond i decided to wait a little longer

Kira - posted on 06/11/2011

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same here but with my 3rd child at new year and im now 22 - 23 weeks pregnant and we were not trying

Stefanie - posted on 01/11/2010

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As long as it was a natural miscarriage and there was no D&C done, you do NOT have to wait since you were only 5.5 wks along. I had a miscarriage with my 3rd pregnancy in June '08. I was about 8 wks pregnant. My OB told me that I didn't need to wait and could start trying as soon as the miscarriage bleeding stopped. I was pregnant with my 4th pregnancy (3rd daughter) by August! She's now 8 months old and there were no issues at all.

Juliana - posted on 01/11/2010

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Hi i have three children an have had six miscarriages. the most recent was nov 09. I think if your body is ready then it will happen. myself i would wait for a cycle and then try. To give your body time to get over what it has just been through.

Anne - posted on 01/11/2010

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I had 4 misscarriage and my Doctor told me to wait a few cycles to get your body back on track before you try again. Good Luck on whatever you do!

Jennifer - posted on 01/11/2010

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I can see that you already have tons of feed back here. In many ways you have already awnsered your own question. I just wanted to let you know from my information on a medical stand point that many of the people who are told to wait a year had a very specific problem related to thier miscarriage. It's medical and complicated, but wanted you to know this does not apply in your situation. Take heart, do what is right for you, and I wish you all the best.

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I had miscarried in march 31st 12th week. and I was very sad.. and I am still trying to get pregnant again.. and still havent got pregnant.. :( but we are still trying and keep on trying to have another child. 10 months no baby.. so hard.. and praying to God to give us another child. :)

Robin - posted on 01/11/2010

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I had a friend who miscarried.. the doctor told her she should do it right away because your body is ready for it.

Maria - posted on 01/11/2010

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I empathize with you as I had two miscarriages in between my two daughters. Before you try to get pregnant again, it´d probably be wise to have a thorough ob-gyn exam, including a DNA test. Sometimes miscarriages are caused by a chromosomal defect or other medical reasons. Best to play it safe to avoid the possibility of more miscarriages and more emotional pain. Good luck to you!

Lisa - posted on 01/11/2010

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I have been through 3 miscarriages and 3 full term
pregnancies. I highly recommend prenatal vitamins and take it easy on your body for the first trimester of your next pregnancy. My body needed a little more time in between pregnancies to heal and be ready. You may be fine to not wait. Everyone is different so you need to decide but please take vitamins. The pregnancies that resulted in full term babies were supplemented with the vitamis. Good luck

Julie - posted on 01/11/2010

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you should wait until you have had a period after the miscarriage that's what i was told when it happened to me wait and see if your period is normal becouse it can some times be heaver than normal so if its normal then it should be ok and remember think about yourself as well its a horrible thing that happened and some times you may still be a bit depressed but if you are sure then go for it my niece had a miscarriage and then got pregnant 3 months afterward and her baby will be 1 soon

Katie - posted on 01/10/2010

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I had 3 miscarriages... one at 28 weeks, the second at 20 weeks and the third at 12 weeks.....all within 2 years. I kept trying, after those I had 2 more beautiful babies. They discovered (when I got pregnant with my daughter) that it had to do with low progesterone levels. I ended up having my level tested every 3 days for 7 months and I had to take horribly painful shots every 24 hours through that whole time. If it is meant to be then it will happen, if there is something medically then the right OB/GYN will hep you figure it out. With determination and hope you will have the baby you want and if you are determined then by all means get back on the horse!!! I am also a believer that if your body isn't ready then it won't get pregnant, so do what feels right to you!

Geraldine - posted on 01/10/2010

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I say go for it! If you and your husband feel like you are ready. The same thing happened to me last yr and ofcourse my husband and I did the same thing, we stopped using protection and just went with it and we got pregnant with my second baby again and everything is going smoothly. Just b/c it happened once it doesn't mean it's going to happen again, I had the same fears. Talk to you doctor about it.
Good Luck!

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Your body has undergone quite a difficult ordeal. It need stime to heal as well as your heart needs time to heal as well. You need to take atleast 6 months to let your body recover from the miscarriage so that the lining of your uterus is in good shape and has had time to heal so it can sustain a healthy new baby. It is like an internal cut that needs to heal. If you try to get pregnant to early you may have another miscarriage. I had a cousin that did that and she had a second miscarriage for getting pregnant after the first one within 3 months. So please take care of yourself. God Bless All of you, My prayers are with you. Pastor Carrie

Theresa - posted on 01/10/2010

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You should probably see your doctor first to make sure that you are ready to try again - you could have miscarried for lots of reasons - and they can help you figure out why. I miscarried 3 times before we realized that I had a pre-existing medical condition that made it difficult to carry full term - once we treated it everything was fine and I went along to have 3 healthy children!

Dianne - posted on 01/10/2010

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Don't give up but they do say to wait 8 weeks and your body's recovery and your emotional recovery is important.

Jan - posted on 01/10/2010

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Sorry for ur loss. I had 2 miscarrages before finding out why and how to stop it. My blood was too thick and I had to take a baby aspirin everyday while I was pregnant. I pray u have a healthy baby next time!

Kylie - posted on 01/10/2010

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The same thing happened to me the doctor told me to have a cycle before trying again and i done that but then i fell pregnant straight after that then i had another miscarriage.My own doctor told me to wait bout 6weeks after a miscarriageto make sure the lining of thw womb is strong enough to hold a baby in it ok. i hope this helps you out.

Charlie - posted on 01/10/2010

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I miscarried at 15 weeks .
You want to be in the best shape possible for you baby so wait a couple of months for your body to recover its not only a trauma mentally but physically as well .

* hugs*

Betsy - posted on 01/10/2010

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I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks and my doctors advice was to wait 3 months and to be sure to grieve the loss of that baby....that is my advice it took me 8 months to get pregnant again and it felt like forever but it was worth it...take care of yourself that is the most important thing~

Angela - posted on 01/10/2010

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Hey Sweetie I had a miscarriage back in July (it was my second pregnancy) and had one cycle then got pregnant again. Now I am 4months pregnant! I think it is totally up to you on trying again...if you decide to go ahead with it you should be just fine and have a heatlthy pregnancy:) I wish you the best of luck and stay positive...Angie

Sam - posted on 01/10/2010

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I had a miscarriage at 8.5 weeks in 2008 and within 3 months was expecting again, I had a problem free full term pregnancy with my son who is now 8 1/2 months old and bonny and healthy and full of energy, and even moved from UK to SA in the middle of my pregnancy. I am also 26 weeks into my 2nd pregnancy ;) My friend had a miscarriage and fell pregnant again b4 even her first period and has a beautiful healthy little girl ;) Whatever u do I wish you much luck and happiness, It is hard not to worry but try and stay as relaxed as possible as it does u and baby no good to stress. xx

Heather - posted on 01/10/2010

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I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks. I was told to wait until I had a normal period which could take a few. I had a normal period the very next one. I was not ready to try again however. I wanted to wait longer. I accidentally go pregnant again only about 2 months later and had another miscarriage as soon as I found out that I was pregnant. We waited longer this time and now I just dont seem to be getting pregnant. so much for having my kids only be a couple of years apart. It has been about a year since my last one. I may have even had another one this past thanksgiving. Not really sure. It could have been an early one. I was almost three weeks late. I never took a test I was afraid to find out that I was and then what the outcome might be.
My Sister in law had two misscarriages before she had her son. They did not wait very long after the first one and she got pregnant and then had the second one. After that one they waited about four months and then she was fine and had a healthy boy.

Anna - posted on 01/10/2010

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hi ,i had a misscarage at 8 weeks ,and i got pregnant after 3 months of having it and that pregnancy went fine and i know have a healthy 8 year so i think you should go for it your body wil know if its ready ,goodluck xx

Mary - posted on 01/10/2010

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There are no absolutes. Most docs will recommend waiting 3 months...it allows your body time to heal, and your cycles to return to normal. It also allows for a bit of emotional healing as well. However, I miscarried at 9 weeks, and had a D&C in the beginning of December 07. My first period was at the end of the month. I got pregnant at the end of February 08....my daughter is now 14 months old.

I am so very sorry for your loss, and wish you only joy and happiness with your future.

Lesley - posted on 01/10/2010

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Firstly, so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Big hug to you. I had a miscarriage at about 8 weeks, became pregnant the next month, and now have the lovliest 17 year old son you could ever imagine. Trust Mother Nature. If your body is ready it will happen! Prayers and best wishes for you x

Sammy - posted on 01/10/2010

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I am sorry about your loss...
I misscarried at 8.5 weeks and had to have a D&C. I was told that because of the D&C it would be much easier to fall pregnant again, however was advised to wait 3 cycles. We ended up waiting 4 months and fell straight away!
Good luck I hope everything works out for you =D

Jane - posted on 01/10/2010

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heart-breaking, isn't it? we waited one cycle (on our doctor's advice) after our first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. once the doctor says it's okay to try, go with your gut. take pre-natal vitamins, stay healthy, no smoking, drinking, etc to increase your odd of a viable pregnancy.
good luck!

Nola - posted on 01/09/2010

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Hi Corryn, So sorry to hear of your loss, but I want to recommend that you consider using natural progesterone cream to help you. Sometimes a drop in progesterone level is the issue, & is actually pretty common. You can see www.womansdreamcream.com or email me if you'd like to know more. Blessings, Nola

Tanya - posted on 01/09/2010

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Hi Corryn, I would wait at least one cycle. Make sure you have your period, not a lot of clotting. Then I would go ahead. For me personally I had a miscarriage but I was much further along. And I just let nature take its course, we finally got pregnant again 2 years later. (I know long wait) Good luck to you and best of health.

Jody - posted on 01/09/2010

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Hi, sorry to hear of your loss. I was in the exact same position (5.5 weeks) but a year before (on same date). The dr told us because we were so early and didn't need any medical intervention that it was safe to keep trying. We fell pregnant again straight away and I now have a very healthy 3 1/2 month old little boy :) Do what feels right for you and your body. I just kept taking my vitamins even through miscarriage. Good luck :)

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Hi Corryn,

My heartfelt wishes to you for your miscarriage so soon after Christmas. I miscarried 8 weeks into my first pregnancy and I was devastated. I can only imagine that this feeling is even stronger once you have had and held a child. My obstetrician explained that sometimes the body naturally ends a pregnancy if there is something seriously wrong and it is nature's way of protecting itself. I didnt understand or accept it at the time because my grief was too great but I got it after a while. My husband and I were already in the baby zone and we just went for it! I took a month off work, did pilates, got lots of sleep and I fell pregnant straight away. Despite working long hours, having seriously bad morning sickness for 6 months and enduring a very stressful (female) boss with little or no empathy or conscience, I had a gorgeous healthy little boy who is now 5 years old, a 3 year old girl and another on the way. This is a big ask with an older child but try to get plenty of sleep, even a holiday, to just relax and destress your body in preparation for number 2. Plenty of massages would be a bonus too. Best of luck with it. You'll be fine.

Bashi

Rosie - posted on 01/09/2010

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i miscarried and before i even got my period again i ended up pregnant. it was my first live birth after 2 hard miscarriages and everything went well. however, my dr told me to wait a couple of cycles to help my body heal, and mind heal, before trying again. i was on the pill, and we used condoms, but still managed to get preg. again. i was an emotional wreck. i was afraid everything i did was going to cause a miscarriage, or if i had some weird pain i felt like i was going to miscarry again. i feel now that if i would've had a little bit of time inbetween pregnancies it would've been better for my mental health.

Jennifer - posted on 01/09/2010

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wish you the best my doctor recommended 3 months of cycles- hope this helps I have two beutiful children and one angel baby

Judith - posted on 01/09/2010

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Sorry to hear about your miscarriage, i had a miscarriage back in April 2008 that was my first pregnancy and was 8 wks, we waited until i had my period until we started to try again i got pregnant last feb and had a gorgeous boy on 11 nov 2009.Wish you all the best x

Patricia - posted on 01/09/2010

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I'm glad you talked to your doc and was told everything was ok. That was the most important piece. I wish you good luck and hope you have a bundle of joy soon!

Sharyn - posted on 01/09/2010

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i just miscarried myself and with the emotional pain that im going thru i'm not even thinking about trying for another one for a year, so i can heal physcially and emotionally .... if you do get pregnant and i do hope with all my heart you dont miscarry because your body hasnt healed yet.

Leanne - posted on 01/09/2010

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Hi Corryn, 3 and a half years ago I had a miscarriage at 6 1/2 weeks, I was totally devastated and went through the same as you where I wanted to try again straight away and wasn't sure whether it was a good idea. I asked my doctor and he said that as long as I was ready he could see no reason why we should wait to try again. So we just went along with it and didn't use protection and within 3 months I was pregnant again. It was very scary being pregnant again but I was so happy. I had a baby girl, who was born 26 days premature but still weighed a healthy 7lb 9oz, the smallest out of all my four kids but she is a happy healthy 2 1/2 year old who just adores her big sister and brothers. All I can say to you is go with what you feel is right, if you are ready, why not!

Corryn - posted on 01/08/2010

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I spoke to my doctor today and he said he didnt see a reason why I cant start trying again as all my bloods and ultrasounds came back fine! He recommened that for hte first 12 weeks that i take it real easy and dont do anything pretty much! Thanks for all your help ladies much appricated!

Elizabeth - posted on 01/08/2010

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First of all I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I have had 3 miscarriages and it was heartbreaking. My doctor told me it would be best to wait at least till I had one cycle before trying again, if I had waited though I wouldn't have my youngest child. I miscarried in April of 2001 and found out I was pregnant in May of 2001. It was not planned but hubby and I didn't try to prevent it either. I have always heard it is easier to get pregnant again either right after a miscarriage or right after giving birth but you do want to try and give your body some time to "heal" . Best of luck in whatever decision you make.

Sarah - posted on 01/08/2010

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I've now had 3 miscarriages and the last one the doc told me to wait for one normal cycle to pass. That was the shortest I've even heard...i though it was usually 2-3 cycles but she knew I was wanting to get pregnant again. I think after a normal cycle give it a go, especially if you feel the timing is right.

Patricia - posted on 01/08/2010

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I've never been in this position but know people who have. Each person is different. Some can conceive and carry immediately others have to wait. Not to insult anyone for the advice but as my doc told me when I was pregnant I'd hear from a lot of "experts". My suggestion is that you and your husband talk to your physician. He/she will know specific to your situation.

Crystal - posted on 01/08/2010

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YOu shouldnt worry, In my opinion I miscarried and then right way had my son 11 months after a miscarry

Abbie - posted on 01/08/2010

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I was never required to wait, because your body gives you time anyway. I always had like 6 weeks from miscariage to next period. If you had been farther along and there was more of a demand on your body the I would say yes wait, but not at 5.5 weeks. I never fell pregnant right away again. It always too my body around 6 months to get pregnant again.

Sue - posted on 01/08/2010

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Although it has been several years, I have had 3 mis-carriages. The first was in the month of December, my youngest was then 8 months. Then was pregnant again at the end of April the following year. Again I lost the baby. I gave up trying after that. I had already had 2 children and figured that was my "destiny". It was about 10 months later I decided to try again, this time with success. And to boot, I got another that I was not planned for. I now have four children and would not change it for the world! Never give up, just have patience. Based on what I went through I would give your body time to rest. If it is meant to be, it will be. Wishing you all the best! Sue

Melissa - posted on 01/08/2010

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Sorry for your loss! I know it is hard! With my 3rd pregnancy I miscarried at about 8wks Sept 04'. I was told to wait a couple cycles and then we could try again. Well Dec 04' we found out we were pregnant for the 4th time and started bleeding the day we found out. Well that one took them 3 wks to find the pregnancy and it was a tubel. When they did the surgery they found that the tube was about to rupture. Lost that tube and was told to wait at least 6 months before trying again. We ended up getting pregnant for the 5th time in July 05'. We have a healthy almost 4 year old now. 8) I would say check with your doctor they know best.

LaWanda - posted on 01/08/2010

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Hi,
It is best to allow your body to heal then after six months try again. I am very sorry for your lost. I also had a misscarridge. Time heal all sadness. I've had the experience to loose a child that I never got hold and I've lost a son to a brutal killing. He had just turned 21. So if I had to make a drastic choice as to when i would prefer to loose a child I would say while I was pregnant. For it is a much bigger lost when the child has grown into a young Man and you went through the whole nine yards as to watching him grow up. Take it one day at a time, for the next pregnancy will not replace the lost of the baby you lost. Take care and be patient.....

Amanda - posted on 01/08/2010

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i had a miscarage at 10 weeks and i got preganant again 3 weeks after having it. now i have a healthy baby girl. i dont think the time lines matter

Michelle - posted on 01/08/2010

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My sister lost her first baby(s) in September & now she's 10 weeks pregnant on her 2nd time around. So far so good. I know a few other people who miscarried & got pregnant within the next 2 months afterward. They all have healthy happy kids. Good luck!

Holly - posted on 01/08/2010

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i had a miscarriage on nov 1st 2008 and found out i was pregnant dec 1st 2009 and i was totally fine. now i have a beautiful baby girl = )

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