After being married to my husband for 13 yrs I am getting a divorce. I am upset about it and so is he but we both agree he is a workaholic and barely spends time with us. Any support? We had twins about a week ago and am so sad but it is for our best. Any support.

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Angie - posted on 02/23/2014

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I don't believe a word of this, sorry. I can't imagine how anyone could say they feel younger separating a week after giving birth to twins. This sounds like someone who's never had a newborn, sorry

Jodi - posted on 02/23/2014

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Wow, filed on Friday and divorced today. On what planet can you divorce that quickly when a few days ago you were still seeing a counsellor?

Edited to Add: Hang on a minute, it was still Sunday where you are when you wrote this. Courts don't work on Sundays.

Sarah - posted on 02/22/2014

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Also your financial sense still does not make sense.....If you own two houses then sell one....that would definitely make finances easier for your husband.

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User - posted on 02/27/2014

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Hi im really sorry to hear this! You both have just been so blessed with two beautiful children and he should be so greatful and happy enough two appreciate you carrying his children so he should do everything he can to make time for yall know excuses this is unacceptable I really wish you and your babies the best maybe once he's Gone he will see its his lost!

Jodi - posted on 02/24/2014

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She lives in Georgia (saw it in another post). The law in Georgia states that one must wait 31 days after the paperwork is filed before a divorce is final if it is uncontested. So you can't file on a Sunday and be granted an immediate divorce (actually, you couldn't file on a Sunday at all). So there is no way there has been a divorce take place in the time span of this thread.

Sarah - posted on 02/24/2014

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Courts are government....they are not open on Sunday. No matter where you live in the US.

Michelle - posted on 02/24/2014

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Why would a cousellor tell you to get divorced? Why would you do what your counsellor told you to do? That's very unprofessional of your counsellor.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/24/2014

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Probably Las Vegas...They're a 24/7 town...

Kathy - posted on 02/24/2014

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Where I live the court happened to be opened on Sunday. Don't blame me for getting divorced so soon because my counselor told us to.

Gena - posted on 02/24/2014

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Kathy,if you are so scared of the internet why even bother seeking advice here...you must be a troll. But if my hubby ever cheats on me Please let me know wich court/judge does such a fast divorce on a sunday! ! :) :) hihihi

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/24/2014

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Agreed, this is a troll.

Too many inconsistencies, in too many posts, on too many boards. Claiming that the inconsistencies are to keep her 'safe' because of the 'big bad internet'...And yet, posting on an international open forum.

Claiming to be using a pseudonym, or perhaps maiden name because the ex is so horrible that he could be looking for her as we type, and yet only has been divorced for a 'few days'...and the divorce was final on a Sunday! Boy, I'd like to find the judge that will hold court on a Sunday...

Mathandise - posted on 02/24/2014

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Divorce was never simple especially when there is children involve.After your fourth child you notice the change from your husband but yet there is still more children after that.There is no way that you cannot do to overcome the divorce is divorce the only solution?Can you not get a full time job and help.How can one feel young after divorce with a new born baby to look after?You have teenage girl pregnant to deal with you have divorce to deal with .Let God intervene and put in some light in this family Amen

Kathy - posted on 02/23/2014

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Thank you Angel. We can arrange things pretty well so as far as I know the kids come with me when I move because he is going to be busy with work. We will!

Kathy - posted on 02/23/2014

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I know it happened so fast but with our personal issues we are officially divorced. We didn't want it to happen so fast but it did. He has gotten very rude to me since our divorce (we got it this morning) and he says I have to move out in a week. Thankfully the other house has furniture and my husband is nice enough to let me keep it( it is my style not his). Thank you for all your comments and I can't believe it but I am a single mom. My 3 oldest girls are very supportive to me and him(they are 8, 13, & 16. They new neither of us were ever happy). My 3 youngests aren't quite old enough to understand(they are 2 1\2, and two are 1 week). It feels very weird but I like it because I feel like I am young again! :-) I hope my kids will get used to it and hopefully I will find someone who is really meant for me.

Kathy - posted on 02/22/2014

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And for personal reasons that I can not explain. I don't feel comfortable sharing them over the internet

Jodi - posted on 02/22/2014

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OK, so you have a second house. THAT can bring in an income for your household. I am still not buying your story - that you are divorcing for financial reasons.

Kathy - posted on 02/22/2014

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I know I wish I felt more comfortable but I don't. I was acting kid of rude saying mean things after people say I am trolling. I am sorry to all people!

A - posted on 02/22/2014

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ok. I am trying to help but it's just when people (not you specifically) post multiple different things that don't add up (because they aren't trying to give too much of their personal life away) it makes it look like someone is trolling. Not saying you are.

Kathy - posted on 02/22/2014

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For extra space. I mean our realtor said it is also great for if you get divorced so that's what made us think about that subject but we just looked at our realtor like he said a comet would crash in the earth.

A - posted on 02/22/2014

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So why did you buy the second house? Was it because of extra space or for the just in case this were to happen?

Kathy - posted on 02/22/2014

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No it won't you don't understand. His job is strict. Sarah barely thought about divorcing at that time.... the main thing we needed was space and hardly thought about it that way. We rent out the house A LOT. Hey my husband never told me there were issues at that time. I know it isn't God's plan to think about that when buying a house and we didn't but I was saying God has a plan for what is going to happen.

Sarah - posted on 02/22/2014

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Sorry not supporting someone that after 3 kids is already planning life "just in case" there is a divorce but goes on to have 3 more kids. And no I don't think that is part of God's plan. He does not want families to break up or for families to be irresponsible and have more kids when there are already issues that need to be dealt with. So no I am not going to say what you are doing is ok, because I don't think it is ok.

Kathy - posted on 02/22/2014

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Well if you guys knew the personal reason it would make more sense. See the only way we could make enough money to live together is if I worked the same hours as him. Actually I know I will have to get a job once we divorce but I won't have to work all the hours he does. We used to both work when we had 3 kids and bought a second house together in case anything like this condition happened so I will have a house to live in. So I know this doesn't make sense and I am sorry it doesn't but I don't feel comfortable enough to share the main reason that makes it all come together on the internet. Anyways you know some people just are not made for each other forever! God has a plan for our family and if this is the first step OK. You never know what will happen. All I am asking for is support not questions.

Jodi - posted on 02/21/2014

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That's what I'm not understanding Angel - how she thinks it is easier in 2 households than one. Her logic makes no sense.

A - posted on 02/21/2014

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So if you can't work now to ease the burden, how are you going to support yourself and your kids when you live separatly. Are you going to work then? Which doesn't make sense why you qouldn't just work now. Or are you going to rely on child support? Which is putting quite the burden on your husband (not saying he shouldn't pay) but still then he'd be paying for two households and probably have to work even more. See how this doesn't add up?

Kathy - posted on 02/21/2014

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I forgive you Jodi. You know when I had my first child I was in between 17 and 18. So I do say both just because I was almost 18 but still 17 so I apologize also. And I know it makes no sense but I buy a lot of stuff but hem doesn't make enough money to pay for all of it so that is one of the reasons but the only way that I would be able to share the other one is through pm but as far as I am concerned that doesn't work for anyone.

Jodi - posted on 02/21/2014

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Not to mention that in one post you were 18 when you had your eldest, in another you were 17......there are inconsistencies that simply don't add up. Oh, and there is the part about you being perfectly fine about your daughter being raped.....

So I apologise for jumping to conclusions.

Jodi - posted on 02/21/2014

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I always think before jumping to conclusions. People don't divorce ONLY because one partner works too much and one week after having their 5th and 6th child unless there is way more to the story. But trying to say you;d be financially better off apart demonstrates a total lack of thought about the situation, and is clearly a bullshit reason, because there is no way anyone is financially better off in two separate households unless you plan on sponging the government for benefits as a single parent.

Kathy - posted on 02/21/2014

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Okay Jodi... my kids are 16(she happened to get pregnant), 13, 8, 2, and 1 week old. How about you think before jumping to conclusions?!? So you might have a good nose for that stuff but you are not perfect. Do you know how hard it is for people to try to explain something on the internet without sharing personal things?!? There is another part to this entire story I wish I could a share. Trust me, if there was pm I would pm you to explain things but there isn't pm. I'm sorry for sounding like a troll but there are things you gotta hide on the internet. I have had BAD experiences with the internet.

Juanita - posted on 02/21/2014

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Please think for you self the person you go to for help may be the problem and you have to think of you kids felling but you man to he always has been there for you do you think it will be Easyer alone no i It will be harder

Jodi - posted on 02/21/2014

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Personally, with the combination of your post about your pregnant 16 year old, I think you are trolling. I have a good nose for that kind of stuff.....and there's plenty that stinks in a lot of your posts.

Jodi - posted on 02/21/2014

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You are making absolutely no sense. How are you better of on separate paths in separate homes if you cannot financially afford for him to cut back hours as it is? Your logic is flawed. How old are your children that you can't get some work to ease HIS burden in supporting your family? Story still not adding up.....

Kathy - posted on 02/21/2014

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His opinion of "full time" is from 4:55 am to 8:30 pm. Did he ever mention financially we can't afford more children? Nope. So that is why we can't live together financially plus I would have to get a full time job also which would not work. We are better off on our separate paths anyways.

Jodi - posted on 02/21/2014

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I'm confused. Why can't you live together financially? It makes more sense to be in one household than two households. Did it occur to you he changed because he is struggling to support 4 kids, and then you kept having more? I'm sorry, this story is simply not adding up. It makes no sense to live in two households rather than one, and it makes no sense to keep having children when you can't afford the ones you have. And why should he have to stop working full time? That's what most normal people do.

Kathy - posted on 02/21/2014

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Actually we just had our third counseling and the counselor said that financially he can't stop working full time unless I get a full time job but with 6 kids that will not work. So financially we can't live together and anyway after our 4 child he started to change and I can not live with him since he changed! We are going to plan out the schedules very well and let them see each other often. Any advice on how to plan out the schedules?

Jodi - posted on 02/20/2014

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So you are divorcing simply because he works too much? Surely there has to be more to it than that!! Did you ever consider some counselling?

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