Crystal - posted on 07/26/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )
Well I have had sole legal and physical custody of my daughter for years now but that was due to her dad filing for sole custody and wanting me to pay child support. He has done nothing but cause headache. After been awarded everything he has done nothing but tried to be on get back mode since. We have gone through so much but my daughter has gone through much more. I have read comments on different post about step parents and absent parents on what different people say and feel about the topic. I can't help but wonder am I wrong because when my daughter's about to be step mom came into the picture, I didn't trust her one bit. I had no clue who she even was until one day I get to the daycare and there is a female who I knew didn't work there holding her with a phone to her ear. I asked who she was but she ignored me. I went the hell off cause I couldn't believe the daycare would let a stranger just come in and interact with people's children. Then after my she was 4 she came home saying this woman slapped her in the face. Her dad lied and said he didn't know what my daughter was even talking about. Another time she said the woman's son and his friends beat her up and she was told not to tell me. So I was about to go to jail cause I was tired about hearing about how something was wrong when she was suppose to be with her dad.... The woman confirmed everything was true but said that her dad gave her permission to dicipline our daughter. Now there is a new woman and within a month felt like she should be added to pick up list, have access to medical info, be able to meet with teachers, etc... I'm going crazy cause I'm like I don't know you and if her dad doesn't have access to all of this than I sure as hell wouldn't even give her this access. When I tried to talk to him about it, this fool says it doesn't matter what I say when she is with him. I had to remind him that I am the one held responsible for her period. Ever since she was 2 and he let some dude watch her and she came home with blood coming from her vagina says "he touched my coo coo"... You already know a sista was bout to go to jail for shooting up her dad's house. Having something always wrong when she comes back home. We were always in the hospital from him smoking around her and not giving her her asthma meds... Meds to keep her fever down, watching who is sick when he has her cause she always seems to come back sick... I mean she is 6 now and has gone through much more than the average. We were never married and we broke up because he decided he wanted to go back to selling drugs and smoking them as well. I do know this because he thinks its cool to put up pictures of him doin this with my daughter in the back round. Now I'm stuck cause I know she loves her dad but I'm not trying to keep him from her but I really think supervised visits would be safe for her considering he will not change. With him going through women that seemed to think that because they get engaged it gives them rights to THINK they can do things or make decisions when it comes to my child. We have at least 12 more years of her being a minor, how the heck am I suppose to get her through this????