Age appropriate chores

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Normally I wouldn't ask for advice, but I have one that I could REALLY use some help with! I have three 5 year old children (2 girls, 1 boy) and one 7 year old (girl) at home. I want them to start doing chores so that they can have responsibilities, but I just end up doing everything myself because it's just easier, quicker, and it gets done the way I want it done (sound familiar?). Could someone please give me an idea of what kind of chores I can give them and maybe some pointers on how to get them to do them...correctly. And in a timely manner! Please help...

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Debbie - posted on 03/29/2013

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Dawn - posted on 03/11/2009

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http://organizedhome.com/kids-chores-chi...

http://www.webmd.com/parenting/features/...

I have 3 children, 13, 7, and 2. I require them to do certain chores and have a very hard time if they are not done to my expectations. I have learned to not be too critical and they enjoy helping mom. Both of my older children must bring their dirty laundry and sort it as well as put away their clean laundry. They both make their own beds and help their youngest sister to pick up her messes. I even have my 2 year old dust, definitely does not meet my standards, but she feels as if she is doing her part. Those two websites may give you some suggestions.

Stacey - posted on 03/11/2009

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Pamela I have 4 children3 boys and 1 girl ages 6 to 14. When my oldest was about 7 years old I had the same thought that you are having right now. I started having them do chores one summer. I can tell you that it was a horrible summer. I was always after them to get there chores done. The rule was that they couldn't play until it was done. I started them out with easy chores also. I found that if I asked one of them to unload the diswasher that it was way to overwhelwing for them. So I had the 3 oldest each do a part of the dishwasher (the youngest wasn't old enough to help yet at all), the oldest did the top, the next did the bottom, and the youngest of the three did the silverware. I noticed that this really helped them to not feel overwhelmed about one job, so I started doing with other jobs also. Bathroom was split up etc. As they have gotten older we have changed some things and added more chores, but they still split the dishwasher and bathroom. Now whoever gets to the dishwasher first gets to pick the part that they want to do. When I say that the dishwasher is clean now, I have 2 kids run to unload because they want to have first choice. I have a chart now that tells what chores they need to do on what days, and this also includes myself and my husband. Weekdays are a little lighter during school time, because they have more homework and piano lessons to do each day, and so they do some in the week and a little more on Saturday, but they don't have to practice the piano on Saturday if they have done it Monday through Friday.

Like I said it was a horrible first summer when I started this, but as I look back I am so glad that I did this and kept at it. They know now that they have to get there stuff done, they can now do it well so I don't feel like I need to redo it when they are not around, and it has become such a part of their life that they hardly ever whine or complain about it. My house keeps clean and I don't feel like I spend my life cleaning, or cleaning up after everyone. Remember to start small and work up from there so it is not too overwhelming at the beginning. Good Luck! It is well worth the work!!!

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check out this web site, www.handipoints.com   this is a great place to start. It has the chores broke down in to about 5 different groups like home work, pets, good hygene, ect. hope this helps.

Julie - posted on 03/09/2009

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There are certain things that my kids have to do everyday. My 6 year old has to feed the outside dog, pick up his room after dinner and make sure his school stuff is set for the next day. My 5 year old daughter's daily chores are exactly the same except she feeds the indoor dog. My two youngest are too little ( 3 and 21 months) for specific chores but they do help pick up their toys in the living room before nap time and bed time. On the weekends they are all expected to help clean Saturday mornings. Sometimes they dust, or vacuum or just pick up really well so I can go behind them and actually clean.

Tiffany - posted on 03/09/2009

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http://www.handipoints.com/index.php here is a website that has chore charts maybe this will help. I made one for each of my children, i have a 7, 6, 4, 2 and everyday except 2 nights a week which were there break nights we picked nights they had a sport or activity. And let them do one chore a night in stead of an overload in one day. i picked simple chores set, unset, clear the table, walk our dog, and i always would let them pick one chore they wanted, i would give them examples though, vacuuming, clean bathroom, laundry help put it in the washer dryer for the younger ones cause they like to help mom or dad. dust, windex hopefully those are some good examples or choices to choose from. Everyday was alternated with a different chore. At the end of the week or couple weeks reward them with a 1 hr game night with u or take them to a dollar store or something or an allowance of a $1 which ever u choose

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