Vanessa - posted on 11/21/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )
I have a question about grade school children hanging out with the opposite sex. I have an acquaintance of mine our daughters hang out. Her's just turned 9 and mine is 10 1/2. Recently I was told that her daughter has a boyfriend and they are allowed to go on supervised dates, they talk all the time and tell each other they love each other which is cute I suppose. My daughter was asked to join on a double date, to which I declined. Then I started looking up age appropriate play dates and I was surprised to see how many are okay with it upon reading them I see why it's okay because it's being reinforced that these are just what it is play dates with the opposite sex. Of course my daughter hands out with her cousin and his friends as well as our next door neighbor is a 10 yr old boy. I just wanted to know at what point is it crossing the line and is it okay to allow your child the impression at the age of 9 that they are in love and dating and then actually bringing them on dates and again yes supervised dates. I can see the innocence in it when I read these articles but I thought my aquaintence was plum crazy with the phone calls and Instagram pictures of threatening other little girls that even ask for his number! That I don't agree with at 9 and now I'm very confused and I do not want to inhibit my child. So is it okay to have two 10 yr olds that have never known each other other then school just go out on supervised play dates?