aggresion/Behaviour problems

Tammy - posted on 02/26/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hi my 3 year old son has been showing alot of aggression/jealousy since our second son came along. He is constantly trying to push his brother and throw things at him, he shows some of this aggression at daycare as well, I thought it was just jeaolousy with his little baby brother but now i think there is something more. I am taking my 3 year old to family doctor for help. Is there any other moms out there that have experienced this? Need advice

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Caitlyn - posted on 11/11/2013

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I have 6 children and yes it is tough controlling them all as being a single mother My Oldest Girl is Emma she's 12 Then we got Lachlan is 11 then Rosie-Mae Is 8 Then Caleb Is 5 Then Zoey is 3 then We Got My Baby Girl Sophia Witch is 1 it's very hard if they don't do there chores (cleaning rooms washing the dishes give the dogs water pick up dog poo vacuum The house set the table pack up) they won't be getting to play on the iPads IPods.Talk to your kid get them to talk. To you and the siblings is always something to do with a problem

Clare - posted on 02/26/2009

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iv been through it myself it is very hard to cope.my son who was 3 years old when i had my second baby.he was very bad.he use to bite him,hit him with shoes,an throw toys at him.i think its jealousy.i dont think there is anything really bad i just think it will pass.have you tryed the naughty step that worked really well for me but its something what you have to keep trying, it does work in the end.because he is 3 you put him on the step for 3 minutes whenever he hits or throws things at the baby.i hope this advice works for you as it really did work for me.good luck

Katie - posted on 02/26/2009

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my son is currently three, and i grew up in a big family. this prolly isnt going to be what you want to hear but in my experience with my son and lots of other 3 yr olds, what he is looking for is boundaries.  when our kiddos start to talk and say cute things they are also learning how to talk their way out of things. i have always been a strict mom, but lately ive noticed my sons behavior getting worse and worse. so i started thinking and realized that we have let his boundaries fall by the wayside because hes so cute. my guess is that your son is lashing out at his brother because he thinks he is taking you away. i know it sounds backwards but now would b the time to up the dicipline. bcuz youre distracted with the new baby you are prolly saying a lot of..."if you dont... then..." and not following through. not your fault, i commend you for being brave enough to have more than one child. he just feels like he is loosing his place i your family. remind him that you love him by following through on dicipline, even if it feels like youre being too hard on him. we dont give kids enough credit, they are smart and he is pushing the exact buttons on you that he thinks will give him attention.  try telling him that instead of acting out he should tap your leg and say "i need attention" and remember to reward his good behavior more than his bad.  hope any of this helps. if you need anyone to talk to feel free to FB me



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Jennifer - posted on 02/26/2009

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I had a 3 year old with some of the same issues.  What worked for her was having her "help" with the baby and with daily things.  She seemed to get a sense of accomplishment and soaked up the praise.  I don't know if you are already doing these things.  But they helped for me. Also...alone time with just her and me really made a difference as well.  Good luck to you! 

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