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~Jennifer - posted on 10/10/2009 ( 320 moms have responded )

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CoM is a great place to get advice from fellow moms, however.......



There are certain controversial topics that are discussed on this forum quite frequently. ie: when to start cereal / solids, what to give for reflux, what to do about rashes,, circumcision, breasfeeding, constipation, failure to thrive, eczema, fever, etc.... you name it, we have questions about it.





The one thing that I want to remind moms of is:



No matter what kind of advice you may receive from CoM forums...it is ALWAYS best to CHECK WITH YOUR CHILD'S DOCTOR FIRST.



We have wonderful, caring moms that always mean to help as best they can, but, as wonderful as they are, they are not medical professionals.



Please consult your child's doctor before implementing any advice you have gathered from the CoM forums.





Thank you,



~Jenn~



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Cat - posted on 10/12/2009

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This is not a personal attack on mothers! I repeat, this is NOT a personal attack on mothers!!! Clearly moms are on here because they enjoy the advice, input, camaraderie, etc. Like someone else said, think of this as a "Disclosure Statement". It's a smart move from a general standpoint and a legal standpoint. I'm sure that Jenn wasn't thinking "You know, that Susan lady is probably pretty stupid. I think I should post something to make sure she knows we're not doctors. After all, who knows how many of the moms on this site think that". That's just absurd and the defensiveness is completely pointless!



Quoting Susan:

Does this really need to be said? I think majority of us are intelligent women who have
already talked w/ their Dr. and want second opinions.



On top of the first points, I think that the operative statement in this quote is that "Susan" thinks the "majority of us" are intelligent. If even one child is hurt or neglected because someone doesn't check with a doctor or feels properly informed when there is more going on, I think this is worth saying. I don't understand why people have to throw things like this out there. Someone opted to go the extra mile to protect everyone on this site. Why exactly does that warrant ridicule??? Silly!

Leanne - posted on 10/11/2009

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Quoting Susan:

Does this really need to be said? I think majority of us are intelligent women who have
already talked w/ their Dr. and want second opinions.



I think it definitely needs to be said! Although most of the advice given is good, some of the suggestions I have read on here are just plain crazy and dangerous. I don't think we can assume that everyone is in a position to have talked to a professional for a number of different reasons.



I think your point is very important and was very well presented, thank you

Ez - posted on 10/27/2009

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Quoting debora:

I AGREE WITH YOU BUT YOU HAVE PEOPLE WHO DO NOT KNOW HOW TO USE CORRECT SPELLING OF WORDS OR PROPER GRAMMER WHICH I FIND NOT SO HELPFUL .JUST LOOK AT THE POST I FLAGGED FROM ANOTHER YES MODERATOR WHO PUT YOU CHILD INSTEAD OF YOUR .THANKS.


Umm... how totally random and off-topic. And FYI - you spelt 'grammar' incorrectly yourself, which makes this post even more ridiculous.



 



As for the OP, it most definitely does need to be said. There have been numerous instances of members giving advice that is far from medically sound. At some point, someone is bound to take this advice seriously.



 

Jodi - posted on 10/22/2009

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Quoting debora:

I AGREE WITH YOU BUT YOU HAVE PEOPLE WHO DO NOT KNOW HOW TO USE CORRECT SPELLING OF WORDS OR PROPER GRAMMER WHICH I FIND NOT SO HELPFUL .JUST LOOK AT THE POST I FLAGGED FROM ANOTHER YES MODERATOR WHO PUT YOU CHILD INSTEAD OF YOUR .THANKS.



Debora, it's called a typing error.  Everyone does it occasionally.  Same as some people seem to have their Caps Lock left on so it appears they are shouting. 



Please DO NOT flag posts because they have typing errors in them. 

Lauren - posted on 12/04/2009

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I agree. I am a pediatric nurse practitioner. If you can't trust the advice of your child's doctor or practitioner, then you need another doctor. Advice from friends and relatives can be very conflicting and confusing. When the conversations start about feeding, vaccines, ets. It's OK to say I trust my doctor and will do as they advise. We do really care about your kids. Also we keep up with all the latest research so we have information you can trust. The reason you are doing things different from grandma is that a lot has changed over the years. Your PCP should be able to keep you informed.

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Diane - posted on 04/21/2010

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On major issues dr. should be the one to talk to, but it is nice to know that my child or myself are not the only ones out there going through things... thank you moms

Emily - posted on 04/18/2010

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I like this post. Others mums may have great advice that worked fine, but what if something did go wrong and they just didn't know it was connected? Or it's usually fine but it does increase risk of something? Doctors can give you more general info on that sort of thing. Unfortunately, doctors don't know everything, and some info is what's fashionable. It's easy to get put off by opinionated medical professionals, and the ones we remember are the opinionated ones, but there are heaps of open thinking medical professionals too, they're just quieter about it. :-) Get all the info first I reckon. A little from column A, a little from column B.
And wow there are some people with chips on their shoulders! I have to say, I haven't actually come onto the forums before, but I saw a topic i was interested in, and have found people being slammed for their methods ie smacking, and even what they call their unborn child! Have an opinion, sure. Voice it even, but don't tear down other mums! Isn't this supposed to be a support network? Everything is not an attack!

Paula - posted on 04/17/2010

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I agree , there is so many mums that have been through it all and,they mean well , but your Medical practioner or baby clinic is the safest way to go. As every child is different and there needs are diferent.

Jennifer - posted on 04/14/2010

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I don't think anyone should be offended, just think of it as a warning label. Good post!

Jennifer - posted on 04/08/2010

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very good point!! every baby is defferent with different situations so what is recommended fro one may not be good for another.

A.L. - posted on 04/07/2010

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I tell new mothers to listen to what is said, keep what they want and discard the rest. No stress. They are the parent. It is their decision not anyone elses. Always check out what you hear before you use it. ♥

Sharon - posted on 04/04/2010

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Of course you a right Jenn. Sometimes because we have been through these thing's we feel we are an authority, but our solution may not suit another child. It's always good advice to get your doctor's advice.

Sharon.

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We all want to believe that it is unnecessary to post this topic but the truth of the matter is there are people that get desperate and will try just about anything at times and regret it after the fact so yes it is important to remind folks to take it to a medical professional first

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Yes i think that we are for the most part pretty smart mums! But at the same time i am sure that there are a lot of first time Mums out on this site. They need to know that as loving and seemingly harmless advice that is given is not always the best for thier child. They should be reminded that Doctors do know more medical speaking, but at the same time they dont always know best for the child. That can only be decided by the parnets. BUT girls PLEASE use COMMON SENSE when takin in advice from anyone! even your dr. If ur told to give ur child (example) some bleach rethink it a bit.

Anne - posted on 03/30/2010

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Jenn, good reminder...and then if the doctor's answer still doesn't

"fit" right, ask for a referral for a second opinion......

Sheryl - posted on 03/26/2010

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Majority would be smart enough, but there are people in the world that will jump on someone's suggestion and when it all goes wrong who do they blame? Instead of themselves for not checking it out or asking a professional, they blame the person that suggested it! I agree, Great post Jenn!

Melinda - posted on 03/22/2010

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How about get some different opinions and research them THEN go ask your doctor what they think. You will have some knowledge with which to understand their response and clarify what it is you really want to know.

Hazel - posted on 03/16/2010

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good advices should be appreciated....but, if you're unsure and confused, it's better to seek help from a doctor...this post is ok...most of moms are just taking advices from other moms and end up regretting because it made things worse for their kids...

Hazel - posted on 03/16/2010

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good advices should be appreciated....but, if you're unsure and confused, it's better to seek help from a doctor...this post is ok...most of moms are just taking advices from other moms and end up regretting because it made things worse for their kids...

Tania - posted on 03/09/2010

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A nice reminder! In New Zealand under 6 get free doctors visits so if in doubt go and see the doctor. Better to know for sure than be worried and uncertain.

Some advice can be great while others not good. Each mum needs to follow her own feeling about advice. What one may do and say is ok for her, doesn't mean anyone else will agree. We are all different and entitled to our own beliefs, theorys etc but no two could be ever the same ....... common sense should provail!!!!

TRACY - posted on 03/01/2010

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Yes, please be careful when it comes to other peoples advice, let's face it there is great advice out there but there is also some "poor" advice. Read them all carefully and if your not sure then take it to the next level and ask your Dr. Better safe than sorry!!

Jane - posted on 03/01/2010

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Remember too, if you are not happy with or feel you just don't see eye to eye with your current pediatrician, there are many of them to choose from. Ask other mom's who they use and what they like or dislike about their experiences. It is okay to look for a good fit. These providers will be with you and your children for a long time.

Cynthia - posted on 02/28/2010

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very good point. i asked a question about when to give solids and 2moms were going at it...

Mel - posted on 02/28/2010

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For Sure It needed to be said!! Yay Jenn!

Its good to clear the air of any misunderstandings. :) Its always in you and Your childs best interest to ask the professionals. :) just to make double sure. ;)

Amber - posted on 02/27/2010

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yes true, but they can also call a WIC program they can help a lot too when it come to " when is the bast time to feed" or things of that sort.Thank you for posting this.

Sandy - posted on 02/25/2010

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Good point! I am a health care professional with expertise in Mother-Baby care. The advise that I post is based what I tell Moms in the health care setting that I work at.

Martina - posted on 02/21/2010

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i agree with u jenn but i really appreciate the advice that come from moms here.the sugestions come in handy especially when its ur first child and u are worried over little things..... thank you all.

Iris - posted on 02/19/2010

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This is definitely true. I am a retired RN, and I worked in a newborn nursery most of the time. We had to refer them to the doctor for questions.

Iris

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